“Who’s up next?” (9.1.16)

You didn’t choose this lifetime, Patricia Bokowski, thinking it would be without challenges. You chose it, in large part, for the very challenges you now face.You’ve got it made,

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“You only look crazy until it works, then you’re a genius!” – NineFrog

Who’s up next?

As far as I’m concerned.

There are far too many,

Totally miserable people.

Out and about.

And next time you’re out and about,

Start noticing.

I see it every time I go to 7-11.

People who have given in and given up.

You can see it in their faces ;-(

And, you can feel it in their spirit.

And that’s from just looking at their faces.

And the way they carry their bodies.

That’s one of the reasons I write these blogs.

To inspire and motivate people.


You have to understand this.

Stop waiting for life to be perfect to be happy 🙂

Because THAT my friends is never going to happen!

Like ever!

Just look at all the Hollywood couples that we all thought we SO HAPPY!

We all thought they had it made!

Who knew?

They are just as miserable as us.

So if you are in a bad relationship!


Your happiness is up to you.

And you alone.

That’s why I say.

It’s better to be alone.

Than in a bad relationship.

Because, there is nothing that can make you feel so lonely.

Is being with someone who makes you feel alone.

I love when I’m having a conversation with someone.

And the subject of happiness comes up.

This is usually how the conversation goes:

‘Patti, how can I be happy?

You don’t understand, I have problems.’

FYI, we all have problems!

Only, that’s not an excuse NOT TO BE HAPPY!

Being happy doesn’t mean you don’t have problems.

It just means you “choose” to be happy while dealing with your problems.

BIG difference!

Life HUGE!

And here’s a little tidbit on the benefits of being happy.

It makes you think better!


Absolutely true!

It’s extremely hard to think “better” when you’re unhappy.

Don’t believe me?

Next time you aren’t happy.

Try solving a problem, successfully.

Absolute proven fact.

Ok, maybe not a proven scientific fact.

But, you get my point.

When you are happy.

You absolutely “think” better!

Which puts you in a better mindset.

To solve any problems you have.

The benefits of being ‘happy’.

Far out way, NOT being happy!

So, choose happiness.

Every time!

Want to be happy today?

Take risks.

Push yourself.

Come out of your comfort zone.

See what you’re made of!

If it works out YOU WIN👈👈👈

And if it doesn’t, you learned a lesson!

Then try it again and again.

Until you win!

All roads that lead to happiness.

May not look like the road you thought.

Which again.

Is why you need to take chances on happiness.

Ever meet someone new and you somehow click?

Yet, you say to yourself, this person is so NOT my type.

Guess what?

Give it a try.

Because you never know.

Ever offered a great opportunity?

Something you never would have thought would cross your path?

And were unsure if you should take it?

Take it👈👈👈

If there is a slight bit of chance.

It’s going to make you happy, choose it!

Why you need to be happy today!


We are all human.

I get that there are some days, you are just not going to be happy.

But, if you aren’t happy everyday.

You need to change that.

Like asap!


There are like a million and one ways.

To get happy today.

Find yours.

You got this“Baby steps!” (10.20.2020)


You knew I was going to say that didn’t you?

Every person you see today give a big ole smile too.

Whether you feel like it or not!👈👈👈

And I don’t care if you have to fake it, do it anyway.

The sheer act of smiling will make you happy(ier).

Because you will see everyone start smiling back at you.

Which in turn, will make you happy.

It’s like a whole catch 22 thing going on.


If we want to go there, because I am that kind of girl!

What you put out comes back to you.

That’s how The Universe works.

She likes to see you doing good things.

Helping others shine.

And in turn.

She will shine her light on you too!


As in.

Hit the gym.

Take a Zumba class.

Try Pilates. Jennifer Aniston swears by it!

Nature is a wonderful healer, take a nature walk.

Better yet.

Take your shoes off and get your toes in the dirt or sand.

Mother Nature has a wonderful way of filling up our soul.

Even when we didn’t know that’s exactly what we needed.

Do you live by the water?

Walk the boardwalk.

I live on Long Island (New York), and we are surrounded (obviously, we’re an island) by water.

On days when I’m feeling I need a little mother nature inspiration.

I go to 7-11, get a cup of tea (because that’s MY jam) and take a nice drive to the beach.

If it’s nice out, I put the windows down and feel the warm wind on my face.

It does absolute wonders for your soul.

And again, all free!

I find my mind opens up.

And usually I start thinking of new ideas.

Of course, turning on the radio and listening to great tunes helps as well.

Kind of snaps me out of any funk I may be in.

Also, makes me HAPPY 😉

Remember how Robin Williams made us smile, laugh and all around, be utterly happy?

Because he knew.

He knew how it felt NOT to have it.


Little did any of us know.

The demons he was fighting.

How he did everything in his power to entertain us.

And he did it so beautifully.

So, don’t lose your spark of madness!

Especially as you get older.

So many people STOP doing things because they get older.

Only, what they don’t realize is this:

“Getting older is inevitable.  Growing old is an option!”

Don’t lose your spark!

Stop growing OLD before your time.

There are plenty of eighty year olds still having the time of their life.👈👈👈

Stop blocking happiness from coming into your life.

Because you have put limits on it.

You were meant to live an amazing life.


A mediocre one.

I’ve told this story before.

I call it my deli story.👈👈👈

It was a hot summer day.

And I went to get some cold cuts at the deli counter of my local grocery store.

I recognized the guy behind the counter.

And gave him a little smile 😉

He looked at me like his dog had died.

He looked REALLY sad ;-(

I asked him how his day was going.

And he answered ‘miserable.’

Me being me.

I was like.

I have to get this guy smiling.

So, I gave him my order and we got to talking:

Me:  Half pound of American Cheese please?

Him:  What kind, Boars Head or the one on sale?

Me:  Well, I don’t know, you’re the expert here, you pick 😉

Him:  (He started to crack a little smile), you’re right, I am the expert here…

By the time he was done with my order he was smiling.

As I was about to walk away, I said to him:

“I hope the rest of your day gets better”.

He looked at me and said:

‘it already is”.

That’s what I’m talking about👈👈👈

The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸


Here is my last, and probably most important.

Piece of advice on Happiness!

Do not put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.

Incredibly important!

We’ve all been there.

And if your like me.

Learned the hard way.

The really hard way.

Never again.

I learned that lesson a long time ago.

These days.

The keys to my happiness are in MY pocket.

That’s right.

Lesson learned!

Who’s up next?

It’s HERE!

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!” – A Whistleblower’s Tale of Lies, Deceit & Betrayal!

Available now on Amazon!

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I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

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Shoot me an email today – pattib@ninefrogs.com!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!

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