“What matters?” (8.23.19)

The way you know you’ll receive 7 times what you give, Patricia Bokowski, or in some cases 4,900 times what you give, is that the giving gives you true joy without any thought of even receiving 1 times back. 
Nice R.O.I.,   The Universe
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Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

“You only look crazy until it works, then you’re a genius!” – NineFrogs

What matters?

Let me ask you?

On a scale of 1-10.

How would you rate your confidence?


Are you a solid 10?

Head held high?



On track?



Are you floundering about?

Hoovering around the 2-3 mark.

Scratching your head.

Still trying to figure it all out.

Read on…“Which one are you?” (11.12.18)

Let’s see if we can’t help you out!

So I have BIG news to share!

I recently opened a shop on Amazon.

Check it out: https://www.amazon.com/shop/ninefrogs

As a Personal Shopper, I now get to share my favorite fashion finds to everyone!

Full disclosure, I make a commission.

New items are added daily.

Thank you in advance for shopping with NineFrogs!


So, I got a spray tan a couple of weeks ago!

At Water2Moon in East Setauket, NY.

Saw THIS sign.

And it made me smile 😉

BTW, I love this location.

Just as nice as their Babylon location.

Very friendly and professional staff.

I have to give a shoutout to my girl Julia, she’s the best!

And I highly recommend them!

So, here’s a question I wanted to through out there.

How many people reading this would get a spray tan?

Because, let’s be honest.

You’re just about naked!

I’ve spoken with some people about this very topic.

And I was NOT surprised.

When people told me ‘No Way”.

Just for the simple fact.

They would have to be ‘almost’ naked.

For the record.

You can leave as much clothes on as you want.

No one tells you what to wear.

That is totally up to you!

NineFrogs on @TikTok

Way back when.

Before I started my business.

I used to go to the library and research – “How To Be Great”?


Because I knew in order to have a successful business.

I would have to stand out from the crowd.

And how do you do that?

Stand out?

I took notes.

Lots of notes.

You want to know how to be great?

Be willing to do the things.

That those around you would never do!



That’s the “not so secret” secret.

Be willing to try new things.

Especially the ones that scare the sh*t out of you!

Especially those ones.

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How many people?

Stop themselves from doing things they want to do?

All because they fear they might fail?


That’s the thing here.

You need to get over that.

Stop being so damn comfortable in life.

You know the saying:

“If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much space.”

That’s the way to live your life.

Trying new things.

Looking to see how far you can go.

Pushing yourself everyday.

Going for the gold as they say!

That’s how you get to be great!



Maybe about four years ago or so.

I finally got my first tattoo.


That was ten years after I told myself I wanted to get one.

That’s how long it took me to finally do it.


After I finally got it.

I was amazed at some of the reactions I got.

Such as, ‘I’d love to get a tattoo, only it hurts.’

Or, ‘Patti, you’re so brave, I could never get a tattoo, only I really want one.”


If you really want to get one.

You’d get it.

Trust me.

If I can do it.

YOU can do it too!

Mmmm, I don’t know if I would say, I’m so brave.

I just know what I want.

I just knew it was something I really wanted.


Then I went on and got three more.

Just waiting for the right time to go back and get number five!

Never give up!

No matter what.

Fight for what is yours.

Stop accepting what is simply given to you.

Because, if you are willing to just accept what is given to you.

Trust me.

It won’t be much.

If anything.

No, you have to fight for what is yours.

And what is yours.

Is worth fighting for!

If it was easy everyone would do it!

That’s where the GREAT part comes in!

Because most people aren’t interested in being great.

Most people are happy with mediocre.


They aren’t interested in trying harder.

Or, fighting for what is theirs.

Fighting for more than what is thrown at them.


YOU aren’t most people are you?


You are ready to fight for what is yours!

That’s it.

Progress over time.

Not in one day.

Or one year.

More like years.

No one gets great overnight.

No matter how much you might think that’s how it works.

That’s why so many people give up on their dreams.

Because it’s hard.

Because it takes a long time.

Because they want it to happen now.

Want to be great!

Start owning your Personal Power!

And. trust me.

You have more of it than you know.

Owning your Personal Power means you call the shots in your life.

You, and you alone.

Making decisions that affect YOUR life.

Deciding who gets your respect and attention.

Hint: not EVERYONE is deserving of it.

You decide who gets to stay in your life,.

And also, who needs to leave.

Remember my line when it comes to friendship:

“If the people in your circle don’t clap at your wins, get a new circle.”


Trust me on this.

You won’t have a chance in hell of being great.

If you don’t have the right people around you!

No distractions.

Stop worrying about what everyone else is doing!

Who cares!!!

Focus on you.

And treat yourself the way you would want someone else to treat you.

You’d be amazed at how good it feels.

My advice.

Stay in your lane.

Take care of you.

Do what makes you happy.

Keep you healthy.

And then, be prepared to shine like a big beautiful MF!

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As I side before.

Watch who’s in your circle.

Are they building you up?

Or, bringing you down?

Are they clapping at your wins?

Or jealous of your success?

Do they share their dreams with you?

Do they support your dreams.


“You can’t do epic sh*t with basic people.”


That about sums it up!

You gotta have a good heart.


You also gotta be savage about things as well.

That’s the key to Winning At Life.

Trust me.

I know.

Winning every day👈👈👈

What do I want out of life?

Everything I hope!


What are you willing to do for it?

What matters?

It’s HERE!

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!” – A Whistleblower’s Tale of Lies, Deceit & Betrayal!

Available on Amazon in paperback and kindle.

Click the link to purchase your copy today: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMSP3LTJ

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

Lastly, make sure you check out my shop on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/shop/ninefrogs

Interested in working with me?


Shoot me an email today – pattib@ninefrogs.com!

That’s a wrap,

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

“What matters?”



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