“Is this it?” (7.31.17)

If you want better from others, Patricia Bokowski, be better yourself.
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“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

Is this it?

I get asked that question often!


As Zig Ziglar states:

“Motivation doesn’t last, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.”

So, I’ve been thinking lately.

Why are so many people asking that question?


Why do people feel so helpless?

Because I’m pretty sure they go hand-in-hand!

And I believe the cause of their misery is.

They lost their power along the way.


Not only that.

They gave up their power without even realizing it.

And that’s why they can’t figure out why they feel so helpless?

Let me tell you.

Feeling helpless is one of the WORST feelings you can have.

So today I’ve assembled some of my favorite inspirational quotes!

THAT is the BIG lesson for sure!

Once you realize that, your life changes.👈👈👈

No one scares you anymore!

And let’s be honest.

That’s one of the reasons we feel powerless.

Because we feel someone OR something is more powerful than us!

We either let the person, or the situation, become BIGGER than us.

When in reality.

YOU still have the power.

If this is you, it is time to regain YOUR power.👈👈👈

“Be brave and fearless to know that even if you do

make a wrong decision, you’re making it for a good reason.”

– Adele

Nine Frogs 🐸🐸🐸


I’ve written about this before in my blogs.

Before I started my business.

I had a good amount of self-confidence.👈👈👈

Only, once I started my business and things started to take off,.

It jumped significantly.

And one of the biggest changes.

I will go out to eat by myself.

And not just out to eat.

Pretty much everywhere these days.


I know many cringe at the idea.

(Wait till I talk about Public Speaking).

And I know that because.

I’ve spoken with so many people about this very subject.

I get it.

I used to be the same way.

I would NEVER go out to eat by myself.

Now, I don’t give it a second thought.

Just like going to a networking event by myself.

I just do it as they say 😉

That’s just one of the many changes.

That has happened to me in the past eight years.


Going out to places by myself.

Starting my very own business.

Not caring what others think about me (like, starting my own business).

Being more confident then I’ve ever been in my entire life.

Growing my audience around the world by over 400,000+ followers.

None of these things ever would have happened.

Had I not started my NineFrogs business.

So, what sets your soul on fire?

I knew for years.

Back when I was working in the corporate world.

That there was something bigger for me to do.

I just didn’t know what THAT thing was.

Only I just knew it in my soul.

And as the years went by, it only got stronger.

I would literally say to myself,:

‘Patti, there is something OUT there you are supposed to be doing.’

And it is most definitely NOT here.👈👈👈

With this mundane work.

No, there was a whole new world.

Waiting for me!

And I was hell-bent on finding it!

That’s the kind of attitude.

One has to have.

In order to accomplish great things!

It’s not arrogance.

It’s confidence.

And, if you want to move mountains.

Which, we know you do.

That’s the kind of attitude.

You need to have.

Want to be better?

Change your mindset!

Be confident in yourself.

Like, really confident.

Know, that you know you are on the right path.

Have unwavering confidence in yourself.

To know you have got what it takes.

And that you are in this for the long-haul.

What I have found over the years.

Is this.

Most people want safe and secure.

Most people want comfort.

Even if it is comfortable misery.

Actually, a lot of comfortable misery.

But, it’s something they know.

So, they won’t change it.


Most people will accept a mediocre life.

Not me.

Been there done that.👈👈👈

These days.

I am going to the top of the mountain.

No matter WTF I have to do.

To get there!


When I was a kid.

I was afraid of everything.👈👈👈


Only as the years went on.

And the more “life” storms I went through.

I wasn’t as afraid.

I now I have found that with each “life” storm.

It’s actually making me more courageous.

Quite honestly.

As the saying goes:

‘That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

I could have tattooed on my forehead.

Because, I have been through it all.



That statement couldn’t be more true!👈👈👈

Here’s a little nugget I wanted to share with you:

All my years working in the corporate world.

Being around all these ‘executive’ people.👈👈👈

People who thought they were so f*cking smart.

Who thought they were so much smarter than me.

But in reality.

They were not.

They were just playing the game better than me.👈👈👈

Because at the time.

I didn’t know we were playing a game?

But, then I learned how to play the game.

I got smarter.

And, when you are a smart woman.

You can be a threat to many people.

Want to be better?

Learn the rules of the game.

And, then break them!

The way I see it.

Is you have two choices.

You can silence yourself.

Because they know you are a threat.



And let your voice be HEARD👈👈👈

Needless to say.

I’m taking the second option.

As Maya Angelou says:

“When one woman speaks up for herself, she speaks up for all women.”

That’s how you inspire others.

By telling your story.

And then YOUR story.

Becomes someone else’s inspiration👈👈👈


You will be.

Like I say.

You’re not vanilla.

Everyone is not going to like you.

I know that about me.

And you know what?

I am perfectly fine with it!

I love that.

And trust me, so true!

That is true power.

The willingness to stay focused.

When the odds are against you!👈👈👈

That is truly a super-power.

The phrase “do not be afraid” is written in the bible 365 times.
That’s a daily reminder from God to live every day being fearless.
That which does not kill us makes us stronger!

That’s where so many people fail.

They are so afraid to fail.

That they don’t even try.


So you try and fail.

Now you know that’s one way NOT to do it.

But there’s still a billion other ways to try it.

So keep trying.

Keep failing.


You WILL find the way!

Don’t be afraid to fail.

Be afraid not to try.

I BELIEVE in you!

Want to be better?

Try and fail, only better.

Have you heard?

I wrote a book!

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!” – A Whistleblower’s Tale of Lies, Deceit & Betrayal!

Available now on Amazon!

Click the link to purchase your copy today:  https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMSP3LTJ

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Lastly, make sure you follow me on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – Subscribe to my YouTube Channel and follow me on TikTok!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!

“Is this it?”


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