“Happy!” (9.1.16)

By the way, dear Patricia Bokowski, the world doesn’t need fixing.
Neither do you.
And dreaming for more, bigger, and zippier, doesn’t mean you can’t be happy today.
  The Universe / Happy!


“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs


Audrey Hepburn certainly had it right!

Happy girls are the prettiest

As far as I’m concerned, there are far too many people totally miserable.

Next time you’re out and about, start noticing.

I see it every time I go to 7-11. 

People who have given in and given up.

You can see it in their faces ;-(

That’s one of the reasons I write blogs like this, to inspire people.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ


You have to understand this: stop waiting for life to be perfect to be happyโ˜บโ˜บโ˜บ

Because THAT my friends is never going to happen!

Just look at all the Hollywood couples that we all thought we SO HAPPY!

We all thought they had it made!

Who knew they can be just as miserable as us when in a bad relationship!

Your happiness is up to you, and you alone.

Famous celebrity or not!

I love when I’m having a conversation with someone, and the subject of happiness comes up.

This is usually how the conversation goes:

‘Patti, how can I be happy? 

You don’t understand, I have problems.’ 

FYI, we all have problems!

Only, that’s not an excuse NOT TO BE HAPPY!

Being happy doesn’t mean you don’t have problems.

It just means you “choose” to be happy while dealing with your problems.

BIG difference!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And here’s a little tidbit on the benefits of being happy.

It makes you think better!


Absolutely true!

It’s extremely hard to think “better” when you’re unhappy.

Don’t believe me?

Next time you aren’t happy.

Try solving a problem, successfully.

Absolute proven fact (ok, maybe not a proven scientific fact, but, you get my point).

When you are happy you absolutely “think” better!

Which puts you in a better situation to solve any problems you have.

The benefits of being ‘happy’ far out way, NOT being happy!

So, choose happiness.


Take risks.

Push yourself.

Come out of your comfort zone.

See what you’re made of!

If it works out YOU WON๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And if it doesn’t, you learned a lesson!

All roads that lead to happiness may not look like the road you thought.

Which again, is why you need to take chances on happiness.

Ever meet someone new and you somehow click?

Yet, you say to yourself, this person is so NOT my type.

Guess what?

Give it a try.

Because you never know.

Ever offered a great opportunity?

Something you never would have thought would cross your path?

And were unsure if you should take it?

Take it๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

If there is a slight bit of chance it’s going to make you happy, choose it!


We are all human.

I get that there are some days, you are just not going to be happy.

But, if you aren’t happy everyday.

You need to change that.

Like asap!


Here are three things you can do today to get you back on the happy train!

Bonus points, they are all free! โ€œBaby steps!โ€ (10.20.2020)


You knew I was going to say that didn’t you?  

Every person you see today give a big ole smile too. 

Whether you feel like it or not!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And I don’t care if you have to fake it, do it anyway.

The sheer act of smiling will make you happy(ier). 

Because you will see everyone start smiling back at you.

Which in turn, will make you happy.

It’s like a whole catch 22 thing going on.


If we want to go there, because I am that kind of girl!

What you put out comes back to you.

That’s how The Universe works.

She likes to see you doing good things.

Helping others shine.

And in turn.

She will shine her light on you too!




As in.

Hit the gym.

Take a Zumba class.

Try Pilates. Jennifer Aniston swears by it!

Nature is a wonderful healer, take a nature walk.

Better yet.

Take your shoes off and get your toes in the dirt or sand.

Mother Nature has a wonderful way of filling up our soul.

Even when we didn’t know that’s exactly what we needed.

Do you live by the water? 

Walk the boardwalk.

I live on Long Island (New York), and we are surrounded (obviously, we’re an island) by water.

On days when I’m feeling I need a little mother nature inspiration.

I go to 7-11, get a cup of tea (because that’s MY jam) and take a nice drive to the beach. 

If it’s nice out, I put the windows down and feel the warm wind on my face.

It does absolute wonders for your soul.

And again, all free!

I find my mind opens up.

And usually I start thinking of new ideas.

Of course, turning on the radio and listening to great tunes helps as well.

Kind of snaps me out of any funk I may be in.

Also, makes me HAPPY ๐Ÿ˜‰

Remember how Robin Williams made us smile, laugh and all around, be utterly happy?

Because he knew.

He knew how it felt NOT to have it.


Little did any of us know.

The demons he was fighting.

How he did everything in his power to entertain us.

And he did it so beautifully.

So, don’t lose your spark of madness!

Especially as you get older.

So many people STOP doing things because they get older.

Only, what they don’t realize is this:

“Getting older is inevitable.  Growing old is an option!”

Don’t lose your spark!

Stop growing OLD before your time.

There are plenty of eighty year olds still having the time of their life.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Stop blocking happiness from coming into your life.

Because you have put limits on it.

You were meant to live an amazing life.


A mediocre one.

This is so me๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†

I’ve told this story before, I call it my deli story.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

It was a hot summer day and I went to get some cold cuts at the deli counter of my local grocery store. 

I recognized the guy behind the counter and gave him a little smile ๐Ÿ˜‰

He looked at me like his dog had died, he looked REALLY sad ;-(

I asked him how his day was going, and he answered ‘miserable.’

Me being me, I thought I have to get this guy smiling.

So, I gave him my order and we got to talking:

Me:  Half pound of American Cheese please?

Him:  What kind, Boars Head or the one on sale?

Me:  Well, I don’t know, you’re the expert here, you pick ๐Ÿ˜‰

Him:  (With big smile on his face), you’re right, I am the expert here…

By the time he was done with my order he was smiling.

As I was about to walk away, I said to him “I hope the rest of your day is better”.

He looked at me and said, ‘it already is”.

That’s what I’m talking about๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Kermit the Frog๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ




Here is my last, and probably most important, piece of advice on Happiness!

Do not put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.

Incredibly important!

We’ve all been there.

And hopefully, you, like me.

Learned the hard way.

The really hard way.

No more for me.

I learned that lesson a long time ago.

The keys to my happiness are in MY pocket.

No one else’s. 

Lesson learned the hard way๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ


Lastly, make sure to follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!