“You have to START!” (10.25.16)

If you can fall in love with just one thing about him, her, them, it, or yourself, Patricia Bokowski, just once a day, and speak it aloud, you’ll be surprised by how quickly it will transform your entire life. 
I love that look on your face when the coin drops – 
  The Universe / You have to START! / www.tut.com

When you start the journey of going after your dreams, whatever they may be, we often think it is going to be easier than it is.

It’s not.


It is like pushing a huge rock uphill, in a snowstorm, and you don’t have any rain gear, so you keep slipping backwards.πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

On a daily basis.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Recently someone gave me some great advice.

They said, ‘when you are starting out to create this ‘thing’ of yours, you are literally creating beauty out of nothing, nothing short of dirt.’

Wrap your head around that.

Which got me thinking.

Thus, the title of today’s blog…

You have to STARTπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” / Maya Angelou

I can’t tell you how many people I speak to who tell me the things they are gong to do!

The business they are going to start.

That book they are going to write.

The new job they are going to get.

Signing up for a course they want to take.

The list is endless.

Here’s the thing.

And I write about it OFTENπŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰

Because it’s so damn important!

You HAVE to start.βœ”βœ”βœ”

Because, in that magical place called “someday”, nothing happens ;-(

Trust me, I know, it’s not easy.☹☹☹

Not at all.☹☹☹

Only, here’s the thing:

Stop talking.

Start doing.

The end!


You need to be the pilot of your project!πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰


Just take your idea and fly with it πŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈ

And, it’s ok if you make it up as you go along,

That’s what most of us are doing anyway, seriously.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Winging it one wink at a time!😩😩😩

Trust me, none of us has THE blueprint to success.✈✈✈

We just make sure we work at it EVERYDAY.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

That’s where the magic lies.πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰

The Universe rewards those they know are serious about this shit!

So, as long as you are consistent and persistent, you are on the right track!

Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸

No it won’t be easy.

Ask any really successful person if their journey was easy?

And I have no doubt, they will have along list of all the things that didn’t go their way.

A list of failures ;-(

It comes with the territory.πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

You need to be resilient in your quest to success.πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

Which you need.☝☝☝

Because, then you will have your own success story to share with those who are starting their journey.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Yes you will.☝☝☝

That’s their problem, not yours.

Remember, it’s your journey, not theirs.πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

And don’t let anyone guilt-trip you into thinking anything less.

What you need to do, on a daily basis, is to take all the steps needed to get you where you want to be!

Build your own door.✈✈✈

Follow your path.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Create your own opportunities.βœ…βœ…βœ…

Call it whatever you want.

Just work on getting thereπŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰

I’ve shared this in so many of my blogs.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

When I first started my business in 2012, I knew at some point I wanted to start a blog.

Now ask me if I knew “anything” about blogging? πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ


Social media?

Like, what was Twitter?

I remember how I literally wrote that on piece of paper at a class on social media I attended πŸ˜‰

I didn’t know anything about anything!

But, I knew I wanted to know HOW to do these things.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

So, I started taking classes at the local college (classes for business owners) on social media.

I used every resource I could to teach myself anything and everything about social media.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And guess what?

I got good at it.πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

Really good I must sayπŸ™πŸ™πŸ™


Because I was determined!πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

Because I knew this was something that was going to help me to get to where I needed to be!

And guess what?

A few years into my business, I started my blog.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Did I know what I was doing?

Hell no.πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

But I did it anyway.


That’s how it works.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ 

Here’s a piece of advice I will share when starting your path to success.

Give up on the notion that it has to be perfect.βœ”βœ”βœ”

I’m sure my first blogs were horrible.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And that’s ok.

I started, and that was the important thing.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Recently I read somewhere, you have to do something 50 times to get to perfectπŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

Or, close to.

All these years later.

I still wouldn’t say my blogs are perfect.

I like to think that they are still a work in progress.πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰

So I’ll say it again…




That’s kind of the attitude you have to have☝☝☝

Tough as nails!

With sheer grit and determination!

Because, trust me, there will be plenty of people who will not support you.

And those people will most likely be your friends and family.

So, you need to be a force to be reckoned with.

And that, I am sorry to say, is the part of the journey where many get off.

Because it gets too hard.

As Tom Hanks has been quoted, “If it was easy, everyone would do it!”

Therefore, at this point, we all know, it’s not going to be easy!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

I can’t tell you how true this statement is.

Stop asking people who have never gone where you’re going for advice.

They don’t know.

Sure, they’ll give you advice as to how they think YOU should do it.

Only, that’s their vision, not yours.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

I have learned that lesson the hard way. β€œWhere Attitude is Everything!” (8.19.2020)

No more asking anyone WHERE I should take my business.πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

That’s not to say, you can ask people for advice.

Just don’t listen to anyone who wants to tell you exactly which path YOU should take!

That is entirely up to YOUπŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡

Now, it’s time to take a leap of faith and STARTπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ


And if you are looking for further motivation, follow me on TikTok & YouTube — The Frog’s Den!

Talk soon,

Till next time,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!




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