“This can’t be it?” (2.5.2020)

I just met with someone very, very fond of you. 
Actually, Patricia, everyone here is very, very fond of you. 
Anyway, this friend said to tell you that just because most people are looking for what they think they don’t have, doesn’t mean they don’t have it. 
She also said you still look fab in black. 
Weird, huh? (I mean the first part…)    The Universe /
“This can’t be it?”


Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

“You only look crazy until it works, then you’re a genius!” – NineFrogs

This can’t be it?

This is probably.

My 20th blog on self-confidence.

Over the years!

“And why is that Patti you may ask?”

Because it is such a powerful ‘tool’ .

In your toolbox for life.

That’s right.

And a very powerful one at that!!!

Possessing amazing self-confidence.

Is that kind of thing that can propel you to the next level.

It can make you do the things.

You never thought possible.

Things, you never thought you could do.

For me personally.

It was launching my YouTube Channel.

Talk about uncomfortable.

Ugh, it’s taken me five years to finally do it.

THAT’S how much out of my comfort zone it was for me.

But I did it!

And then after I did it.

I got so many people telling me they loved it.

It’s still daunting.

That’s the thing about doing things.

You want to do, only we are afraid to do them.

You put your own insecurities into something thinking.

No one’s going to like ‘this’, or.

I can’t do ‘that’, or who would like ‘it’…just to name of few!

So today.

I am sharing some of my best self-confidence tips!

And get your self-confidence soaring!

First and and most important.


Like unwavering belief.

Because if you don’t believe in you.

It’s going to be hard to get anyone else to believe in you!

You can start small.

You don’t have to start at the top.

Start with little things every day.

Then gradually, try some new things.

What things you might ask?

The things you’ve been thinking of doing.

Only you haven’t.

Personally, I can always tell.

When it’s time to try something different.

I start getting anxious.

And a little bored.

That’s when I know.

It’s time!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs


Something no one tells you.

This quest for success.

Is for the person.

Who can do it ALONE!


Be prepared to do it alone.

The path to amazing self-confidence.

Is usually a one man/woman show.

I mean.

Sure you can work with people.

To help you on your quest.

But ultimately.

It comes down to you.

And what you are willing to do to get there!

Attaining amazing self-confidence.

Is totally an inside job👈👈👈

MOVE!  Everyday! 

Walk.  Join a gym.  Go to Zumba.  

Take up tennis.

Take the stairs.

Park your car furthest from the building where you work,.

Or where you go shopping.🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Whatever floats your boat!

Just get out and move.

A lot and often🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Because the by-product of your efforts.

Is not only will your clothes start to fit you better.

But, you will feel better about yourself.

And when that happens.

Magical things take shape.

Oh, and those endorphins start to flood your brain.

Make all kinds of happy things go on in there.

Very scientific of me 🙄🙄🙄

Makes you think clearer👈👈👈

Once that starts to happen.

You will just want more of it,

That’s how it works.

Oh, and drink a lot of water while you’re at it.👈👈👈

Flushes the body of all those yucky things.

That cling to your insides.

Also, makes your skin look GREAT.

And, it helps with clarity.

Think of it this way.

You are basically a houseplant.

Only a lot more complicated🌺🌺🌺

I know you’ve heard the term “garbage in, garbage out!” 🤮🤮🤮

I’m pretty sure that’s Oprah’s line, but who knows?

Well, there’s a reason for that👈👈👈

On your quest to gaining amazing self-confidence.

You CANNOT be taking in garbage of any sort

That’s the thing about garbage.

It screws with your thoughts.

Your brain and your dreams, just to name a few things!

It makes you question yourself.

Who here has had nightmares in their life.

Hello, where do you think many of them come from?

Just saying!

You want to keep you mind thinking positive thoughts. http://www.ninefrogs.com

And in order to do that.

You want to take in as many positive things.

Into you heart, brain, soul and body.

Examples of where you can find positive subject matter:

Books, blogs, music, movies, tv, Instagram, FaceBook, LinkedIn, YouTube, Pinterest, TikTok, etc.

Of course.

You need to keep your social media feeds positive.

Get rid of, delete, or block anyone who fills your feed.

With any kind of negativity.

I don’t think I need to explain what that exactly is these days.

The point is, avoid as much negativity as possible.

And that most definitely includes negative people.

Trust me.

Those people will squash your self-confidence.

In a heart-beat! #heartlessbastards

“You are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with”.

You’ve heard that before👈👈👈

So who are your five people?

Are they optimistic, supportive, goal-oriented, go-getters?

Dream-chasing, funny, smart people?

If they aren’t?

You need new people.

As for me, I have a VERY small circle.

Like, I don’t even have five people.

But, I have all the people I need!

That’s pretty much how it goes.

It is not a straight shoot!

So, you get up and try again👈👈👈

No one said this was going to be easy.

The thing is, you have to keep trying.😥😥😥

THAT’S the part that gives you amazing self-confidence!

When you keep trying and finally get it!

Lastly, my favorite topic.

There is absolutely no WAY.

You are ever going to attain amazing self-confidence.

Unless you dress the part!

And that, is different for everyone.

There is no cookie-cutter answer as to HOW you should look.

Only YOU can decide that.

But, trust me, when you know it, you know it.

As I have said in previous blogs.

All it takes is a little time and effort.

To look your personal best.

Now you know!

That is it.

That’s exactly how it feels.

And if you don’t feel like that now.

You need to change that asap!


You DESERVE to feel that way now!

This can’t be it?

Have you heard?

I wrote a book!

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Available now on Amazon in paperback and kindle.

Click the link to purchase your copy today: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMSP3LTJ

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

Lastly, make sure you subscribe to my YouTube Channel – The Frog’s Den! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCliVgDpn8Yw3eVjiX_yI6Vw

Interested in working with me?


Shoot me an email today – pattib@ninefrogs.com!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

“This can’t be it?”



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