“How would this help?” (3.13.2021)

What if, Patricia Bokowski, happiness didn’t have anything to do with what you have, what you do, or even where you’re headed, and arose entirely from what you chose to think about, yet nobody knew this? 
And what if changing your thoughts, so that you could feel happier more often, would entirely change what you have, what you do, or even where you’re headed, yet nobody knew this either? 
Do you think if we told them they’d choose to think differently every single time they ever felt sad or angry or powerless? 
Thinking of you, Patricia Bokowski –   The Universe / “How would this help?” / www.tut.com

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder -NineFrogs

“You only look crazy until it works, then you’re a genius!” – NineFrogs

How would this help?

Just asking?

As I’m feeling a lot of sadness.

Coming from a lot of you.

Just wondering?

Is it because you lost your power?

Because if that’s it?

Yes, that will definitely make you sad.

Because, the minute you lose your power.

You lose yourself.

I know.

I’ve been there.

So, what you need to do.

Is, get your power back.


Once you have it back.

No one can take it away from you.

And, I guarantee you.

You’ll find your happiness.

Because, the two go hand-in-hand.

Life is too short to be sad.

So, stop wasting time.

This is your time to shine.

Trust me.

You are worth it!

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Have you heard?

Happiness is the new luxury?


Apparently many are looking for it.

Few are finding it?

No matter what they do.

They just can’t find it.

Which is really sad.

Of course.

Add in a world gone crazy.


It’s the perfect storm.

So if you’re asking?

How can I find my happiness?

Just look within love, it’s there!

As I like to say:

“Shine like a beautiful MF!”

All day.


And don’t concern yourself.

With those who don’t like it.

That’s their problem not yours.

You owe it to not only yourself to shine.

But to everyone around you.

So if you keep asking yourself this question:

How can I find my happiness?

Look within love, look within.

Trust me.

You got this!

Today I’m sharing some tips on finding your ‘happy’.

Just in case you lost yours.


One of the quickest ways to finding your happiness.

Is to follow your passion.

I know that worked for me.

Keep reading love <3

You got this!

Funny story:

This happened one summer during the pandemic.

I was sitting in my car in a parking lot.

My son was in getting his hair cut.

I had the window open as it was a beautiful day.

And I notice a lady pushing her cart up to her car.

Which was about five spots away from where I was parked.

I looked over at her and smiled 🙂

Obviously, I didn’t have my mask on because I was sitting in my car.

She just kind of looked over at me.

And then proceeded to put her groceries in her car.

So I was like, ok, so much for that.🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

And continued scrolling on my phone.

A few seconds later I hear, ‘Hey”.

I look over.

And the lady has her mask off and a big smile on her face.

And then she said.

“I wanted you to know I was smiling back.”.

I looked back at her and said.

‘You just made my day.”

And she looked at me and said;

“You just made mine”.

Moral of the story.

Everyone is looking for a reason to smile 🙂

You got this!

I know everything in the world looks like a giant sh*t show right now.

But, it’s up to you to persevere.

See, that’s where the term ‘the calm before the storm came about.”

Life IS a crazy these days.

NO ONE is going to argue that fact.

Just go with it.

I mean.

Do what you can.

Change what you can.

And what you can’t.

Look within.

Just know.

The Universe is coming in to clear your path.

To where you are supposed to be.

Another way to look at it.

It’s not a punishment.

It’s a blessing.

So when people ask me?

“How can I find my happiness?”

I answer back:

“What are you doing to make your soul happy?”


It’s kind of impossible to be happy.

If you are not feeding your soul on a daily basis.

Want to be happy?

Look within love, look within.

You got this!

Another way that people lose their happiness.

Is by comparing themselves to others.

We’ve all heard the phrase, ‘comparison is the thief of joy”.

So, stop comparing yourself to others.

It’s a complete waste of time.

You are uniquely YOU.

And your path is for you to create.

How can I find my happiness?

Find what sets your soul on fire!

Kermit the Frog

Ok, so this is a personal one for me.

Want to feel HAPPY 🤗🤗🤗

Create your own happiness.

Surround yourself with people who make you HAPPY.

DO the things that makes you HAPPY.

Make sure your surroundings make you happy.

It’s kind of hard to be happy.

If you don’t like where you are living.

This is where decluttering comes in.

Get rid of everything that doesn’t make you happy!

Hang up some pictures that makes you happy.

How can I find my happiness?

Look within love, look within.

ALL. OF. IT.👈👈👈

If there is one thing life has shown us.

You can never tell what is coming at you.

So, let go of everything that weigh you down.👈👈👈


Think about all the things that you worry about.

You know.

Those little things that float around in your head.

Let. It. Go.

Same goes for the sh*t around your house.

Things that have just been taking up space.

It’s Fall.

Perfect time to clean👈👈👈

Get ride of everything that doesn’t make you happy.

Donate all your stuff to your favorite charity.

That alone will make you happy.

That’s what you call a win/win👈👈👈

Want to be happy?

Take a risk or two.

And please.

Don’t be afraid to take them.

Get out of your comfort zone.

That’s where the magic truly happens.

It’s like when people complain to me that their life is so boring!

I ask them what are they doing about that?

And the answer is usually “nothing”.

If you want to find happiness.

Start thinking different.

Start doing different.

You got this!

Want to find your happiness?

Stop waiting for other people to give it to you!

And for the Love Of God.

DO NOT put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket!

That’s like the Kiss Of Death to your happiness.

How can I find my happiness?

Look within love, look within.

Want to be happy?

Stick with the people who make you feel like sunshine!👈👈👈

You know what I mean.

If the people in your circle aren’t clapping for you when you get a win.

It’s time to find a new circle.

As Maya Angelou said: “Every storm runs out of rain.”

You just have to hang in there.

Your happiness will return.

Do. Not. Give. Up.

You got this!

In summary:

I know there will be people who will read this blog.

And say, ‘sorry Patti, all that sounds great.

But that doesn’t work for me’.

And then they’ll wonder.

Why they’re still not happy.

Just remember.“How can I move on?” (9.1.2021)

Happiness is a choice.

Every morning.

Choose wisely my friends.

How would this help?

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Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

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Shoot me an email today – pattib@ninefrogs.com!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

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