“How can I get to the top?” (1.21.19)

Dear Patricia Bokowski! 
Your fears are ebbing, your confidence is rising, and proof that I exist can now be felt in your touch by loved ones, found in your smile by friends, and seen in your countenance by strangers.
Everything, for you, will now begin getting easier, happier, and zippier. 
Giving new meaning to the adage, “Be the ball” –   The Universe / How can I get to the top?


Patricia D. Bokowski – TikTok/YouTube – The Frog’s Den

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How can I get to the top?

Patricia D. Bokowski – NineFrogs CEO

How can I get to the top?

It’s a question on a lot of people’s minds.

And I believe having amazing self-confidence is key!

Having amazing self-confidence is the stuff you need to make your dreams come true.

And do all those things most people either can’t or won’t!

There are literally hundreds of things you can do to increase your self-confidence. 

Today I am sharing some of my favorites to get you there faster!  

How can I get to the top?

How can I get to the top?

I’ve written about this so many times, because it is so true! 



I know I’ve said it a million times.

And I will most likely say it a million more.

When you smile, you not only light up others, you light up yourself as well.  

And when that happens, over and over again, you will feel a shift. 

Soon enough, you will notice your affect on other people. 

This happens to me pretty much on a daily basis.

I swear.

Some people are so happy when they see me.

I’m not sure if it’s my hair, or my smile.

And, it doesn’t even matter.

I smile.

They smile.

We’re all happy.

That’s how your confidence starts to soar!

How can I get to the top?

Patricia D. Bokowski – TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den

How can I get to the top?

So true, so true! 

You Really HAVE to Believe in yourself! 👈👈👈

Like CRAZY believe. 

Sounds simple enough. 


You have to have believe you can do the things you want to do.

Even if it scares the shiX out of you!  

And you don’t have to start at the top.

Start doing small things and THEN you will get to the big things. 

No one eats the whole apple in just one bit!


Just make sure you are doing it everyday.

Not on the days you feel like it!

How can I get to the top?

Soar Like An Eagle!

If you want to get unwavering self-confidence,.

You can’t follow the crowd!

Because, let me tell you. 

They aren’t going where you are going👈👈👈

Most people who are craving amazing self-confidence.

Are doing so because they have a different path then those around them.

Most likely.

That thing inside you, is the very thing you will need amazing self-confidence to do!

That’s kind of how it works!

How can I get to the top?

Soar Like An Eagle!




Join a gym. 

Go Zumba.  


Whatever floats your boat!

The point is too move your body everyday! 

Exercise is not only good for your body, it’s good for your brain.  

And when you start to take good care of your body, all kinds of wonderful things happen. 

How can I get to the top?

Soar Like An Eagle!


You will start to FEEL better.  

You will start to walk with a little “jump” in your step.  

Your clothes will start to fit better. 

You will start thinking clearer. 

And because you are feeling better about yourself.

Your self-confidence will rise!

How can I get to the top?

Soar Like An Eagle!

You’ve heard the term “garbage in, garbage out!”

I’m pretty sure Oprah said that.

Think about it.

If you are taking in garbage.

You know, negative talk, listening to disturbing news, hanging out with toxic people, etc.

Chances of having amazing self-confidence are minimal at best.

Take in the positive.

Books, music, blogs, people, experiences, relationships, friends, etc/ 

You will notice the change.

This also includes the self-talk as well.

Only say nice things to yourself.

Your mind and body lisen to everything you say.

Even those little things.

You know.

Those little things you say to yourself. 

Make sure you keep that positive.

How can I get to the top?

Soar Like An Eagle!

Affirmations are a fabulous tool to gain amazing self-confidence.

You can Google it. 

Find a few that really move you.  👈👈👈

Here are I’ve listed a few of my favorites:

“Everyday, in every way, I get better and better and better!”

I am a love magnet, I  am an opportunity magnet, I am a health magnet, and I am a wealth magnet. 

I am a successful ____________ overflowing with abundance, love and happiness!

How can I get to the top?

How can I get to the top?

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase.

You know the one that says: “you are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with.”

There’s a reason for that. 

If you are surround yourself with unmotivated, toxic, negative people.

Chances of you raising your self-confidence are slim.


Surround yourself with positive, goal-oriented, motivated individuals. 

And watch your self-confidence soar.👈👈👈


If you can’t find any of those people just yet.

Don’t be afraid to go it alone.

Here’s the thing.

Don’t be afraid to like it!👈👈👈

How can I get to the top?

How can I get to the top?

Make sure you take some time every day to do the things YOU love.

What YOU love.


I love watching TMZ at night.

I love getting my nails done.

A pedicure.

Shopping at TJMaxx and The Dollar Store.

Going to the gym.

Getting together with friends.

How can I get to the top?

Here are some suggestions if you are stuck on this one:

Read a book. 

Get a massage. 

Listen to some awesome music. 

Go to lunch with a good friend. 


Take up yoga (I’m thinking of doing this one myself). 

Get a facial.


Give yourself a facial (taking care of your skin is vitally important for both men and women).

And don’t forget.

Those important daily grooming things,

Like; your hair, your nails, and unwanted hair growth (that’s why they sell those grooming tools).

Let’s face it.

When we feel good about ourselves. NineFrogs Daily:

When we like what we see in the mirror.

That’s helps our self-confidence grow immensely.

The point is.

Do something good for you everyday. 

Even if it’s just for a few minutes. 

How can I get to the top?

Life is all about taking chances.👈👈👈

One of the surest ways to step up your self-confidence game.

Is to step OUT of your comfort zone.

And yes, I know, it makes you uncomfortable. 

That’s the point.👈👈👈

These days I am making TikTok videos.

I’m still uncomfortable with it.


I do it anyway.

What is something you can do today to get you one stop closer to where you want to be?

Now do it!👈👈👈

How can I get to the top?

You knew I had to put this on my list!

Looking your best is so important for your self-confidence!

It is extremely hard to have amazing self-confidence if you are walking around looking like shix! 

And if that is the case, you probably feel like shix too!

And it doesn’t mean you have to be “all dressed up”. 

You can look fabulous in a t-shirt and a pair of jeans.

It’s all how you put it together. 

Here’s a hint, don’t walk around in your slippers and pjs!

Look your best!

Take pride in how you look. 

Be meticulous with your image. 

From your hair to your shoes, and everything in between.

That includes your body language.  

Smile (see above). 

Eye contact.. 

Keep your vibe high.

Once you start doing that.

You will notice a big difference in your life.

And the people you start to attract into it.👈👈👈

How can I get to the top?

One day at a time!

How can I get to the top?

Patricia D. Bokowski – TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

How can I get to the top?



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