“Don’t be sad!” (3.13.2021)

What if, Patricia Bokowski, happiness didn’t have anything to do with what you have, what you do, or even where you’re headed, and arose entirely from what you chose to think about, yet nobody knew this? 
And what if changing your thoughts, so that you could feel happier more often, would entirely change what you have, what you do, or even where you’re headed, yet nobody knew this either? 
Do you think if we told them they’d choose to think differently every single time they ever felt sad or angry or powerless? 
Thinking of you, Patricia Bokowski –   The Universe / “Don’t be sad!” / www.tut.com

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

Don’t be sad!

Do you know why?

My belief.

Because they are so concerned.

With what other people think!


The minute you stop worrying.

About what others think of you.

Is the minute you free yourself.

Of others opinions.


What others think of you.

Is none of your business.

Anymore than what you think of others.

Is none of their business.


I’m so busy watering my grass.

That I don’t have time, or desire, to worry about.

What anyone else is doing.

And guess what?

I’m the happiest I’ve ever been πŸ™‚

Have you heard?

Happiness is the new luxury?


Apparently many are looking for it.

Few are finding it?

No matter what they do.

They just can’t find it.

Which is really sad.

Of course.

Add in a pandemic.


It’s the perfect storm.

So if you’re asking?

How can I find my happiness?

Just look within love, it’s there!

As I like to say:

“Shine like a beautiful MF!”

All day.


And don’t concern yourself with those who don’t like it.

That’s their problem not yours.

You owe it to not only yourself to shine.

But to everyone around you.

How can I find my happiness?

Look within love, look within.

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

Today I’m sharing some tips on finding your ‘happy’.

Just in case you lost yours.


One of the quickest ways to finding your happiness.

Is to follow your passion.

I know that worked for me.

How can get happy?

Keep reading love <3

Funny story:

This happened LAST SUMMER.

I was sitting in my car in a parking lot.

My son was in getting his hair cut.

I had the window open as it was a beautiful day.

And I notice a lady pushing her cart up to her car.

Which was about five spots away from where I was parked.

I looked over at her and smiled πŸ™‚

Obviously, I didn’t have my mask on because I was sitting in my car.

She just kind of looked over at me.

And then proceeded to put her groceries in her car.

So I was like, ok, so much for that.πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

And continued scrolling on my phone.

A few seconds later I hear, ‘Hey”.

I look over.

And the lady has her mask off and a big smile on her face.

And then she said.

“I wanted you to know I was smiling back.”.

I looked back at her and said.

‘You just made my day.”

And she looked at me and said;

“You just made mine”.

Moral of the story.

Everyone is looking for a reason to smile πŸ™‚

That’s where the term ‘the calm before the storm came about.”

If your life is a little crazy these days.

Just go with it.

I mean.

Do what you can.

Change what you can.

And what you can’t.

Look as if.

The Universe is coming in to clear your path.

To where you are supposed to be.

Another way to look at it.

It’s not a punishment.

It’s a blessing.

So when people ask me?

“How can I find my happiness?”

I answer back:

“What are you doing to make your soul happy?”


It’s kind of impossible to be happy.

If you are not feeding your soul on a daily basis.

Want to be happy?

Look within love, look within.

Another way that people lose their happiness.

Is by comparing themselves to others.

We’ve all heard the phrase, ‘comparison is the thief of joy”.

So, stop comparing yourself to others.

It’s a complete waste of time.

You are uniquely YOU.

And your path is for you to create.

How can I find my happiness?

Find what sets your soul on fire!

Kermit the Frog

Ok, so this is a personal one for me.

Want to feel HAPPY πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

Create your own happiness.

Surround yourself with people who make you HAPPY.

DO the things that makes you HAPPY.

Make sure your surroundings make you happy.

It’s kind of hard to be happy.

If you don’t like where you are living.

This is where decluttering comes in.

Get rid of everything that doesn’t make you happy!

Hang up some pictures that makes you happy.

How can I find my happiness?

Look within love, look within.

ALL. OF. IT.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

If there is one thing this pandemic has shown us.

You can never tell what life will throw at you.

So, let go of all the things that weigh you down.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ


Think about all the things that you worry about.

You know.

Those little things that float around in your head.

Let. It. Go.

Same goes for the sh*t around your house.

Things that have just been taking up space.

It’s Summer.

Perfect time to cleanπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Get ride of everything that doesn’t make you happy.

Donate all your stuff to your favorite charity.

That alone will make you happy.

That’s what you call a win/winπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Want to be happy?

Take a risk or two.

And please.

Don’t be afraid to take them.

Get out of your comfort zone.

That’s where the magic truly happens.

It’s like when people complain to me that their life is so boring!

I ask them what are they doing about that?

And the answer is usually “nothing”.

If you want to find happiness.

Start thinking different.

Start doing different.

Want to find your happiness?

Stop waiting for other people to give it to you!

And for the Love Of God.

DO NOT put the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pocket!

That’s like the Kiss Of Death to your happiness.

How can I find my happiness?

Look within love, look within.

Want to be happy?

Stick with the people who make you feel like sunshine!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

You know what I mean.

If the people in your circle aren’t clapping for you when you get a win.

It’s time to find a new circle.

As Maya Angelou said: “Every storm runs out of rain.”

You just have to hang in there.

And hopefully, your happiness will return.

In summary:

I know there will be people who will read this blog.

And say, ‘sorry Patti, all that sounds great, but that doesn’t work for me’.

And then they’ll wonder.

Why they’re still not happy.

Just remember.

Happiness is a choice.

Every morning.

Choose wisely my friends. NineFrogs Daily:

The power of being happy!

Under the heading.

Don’t be sad!

Be happy!

I’m writing a book.

My first.

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Anticipated release date: February 2022!

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos up now on TikTok!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

Don’t be sad!”



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