“Build me up!” (7.15.19)

If you just start dancing, Patricia Bokowski, I can assure you, by the powers vested in me (more than you could ever imagine), the music will be added. As will the partners, the giant disco ball, and whatever else you like.
But I must warn you, “start” is not to be confused with “start and then stop to see if anything happens.” Nope, that’s “I’m scared, tired, and not sure what I really want.”

I mean “start” as in “never stop, never look back, because even if I make a ‘mistake,’ at least I still get to dance.”
Do your thing and I’ll do mine.  The Universe / Build me up, don’t break me down!! www.tut.com

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

What’s that you might ask?

Crabs in a bucket?

WTF is that?

It goes like this:

Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as, crabs in a bucket.

Is a way of thinking best described by the phrase:

“if I can’t have it, neither can you.”

Build me up!

Don’t break me down!

What happens when you put a crab in a bucket?

It tries to escape.


Now, put two crabs in the bucket.

What happens then?

Let’s see.

When one crab tries to escape.

The other crab will pull it back down into the bucket.

Hence, crabs in the barrel mentality.

Build me up.

Don’t break me down!

LIFE works like that too.

People get jealous all the time.

Maybe someone gets a promotion and they are jealous THEY didn’t get one,

Or, someone buys a new house.

Much nicer than theirs.

And THEY get jealous because their house isn’t as nice.

Same goes for cars, jobs, business, partners.

Hell, I’ve heard of people getting jealous of someone because of what gym they went to!

Build me up!

Don’t break me down!

There may be those around you that don’t want you to succeed.

They are very comfortable where you are in your life, IN their life.

And they don’t want yo to rock the boat.

Only, one day you decide you want more.

You don’t want to live a mediocre life.


Do more, be more.

Maybe you want to start your own business?

Perhaps you go back to college and work on that degree?

It doesn’t really matter what it is.

If you make the people around you uncomfortable.

Don’t be surprised if they try and sabotage you!

Build me up!

This can make others around you very uncomfortable.

So they will try and pull you back.

Say things like, “it won’t work”, “you can’t do it”, “you will never succeed”, “how are you going to do that”, and so on.


That’s that’s them.

Not you.

Build me up!

My advice.

Surround yourself with people who make you feel like sunshine.


If that means you only have one person.

Consider yourself lucky.

I’d rather have one person who has my back.

Then eight who I have to keep one eye open.

Build me up!

People who believe in you and your dreams.

They are gold.

Everyone else.

Forget them.

If they are meant to be in your life, they will find a way.

Build me up!

And how are you going to find those people?

Because people always ask me that.

They’ll find you.

They always do.

Just keep working on your goals.


Build your foundation.


One day at a time.

Build me up!

Here’s another thing people need to understand.

Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.

And man.

I have been seeing so much of this on social media.

It is literally a dog-eat-dog-world.

People get so jealous when they see someone else getting some attention.

So their reaction is to go for the hate!


Build me up.

Don’t break me down!

BTW, we all need this!

My feeling is this.

If something great happens to you.


If I’m happy for you.

U just put out that good vibration out into the Universe,.

And that’s vibration is going to come back on me.

The Universe loves positive vibes.

And it loves the people who put out the good vibes.

Build me up!

Those are your people to go to.

Personally, I have a handful of people to go to when I need help.

And. when I say a handful.

That’s exactly what I mean.

And I am not afraid to ask them anything.

And in turn, they ask me for my help when they need it.

That’s the wonderful thing about surrounding yourself with supportive people.

People who aren’t trying to pull you back into the barrel.

Instead they are pushing you up!

Build me up!

Lastly, a little golden nugget to share with you today:

And the day will come when all of the gold in the world will not appeal to you as much, Patricia, as having just one more day of being who and where you already are, with what you already have.
If it hasn’t already. 
Thank you,   The Universe

Whatever you do in life.

Do not let others drag you down.

You were born for greatness!

Show the world what you are made of!

Build me up!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

Build me up!



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