“Which one are you?” (2.26.2022)

Dearest Patricia Bokowski, I wish for you flowers and sunshine, gentle breezes and clear skies, calm seas and rainbows. But, perhaps most of all, I wish for you the glorious breadth of experiences you are now poised to receive, so that these tidbits are mere icing on the cake of a life that’s rich in adventure.

I know what is going to happen next in your life.

Happy tears,
  The Universe / “Which one are you?” / www.tut.com
Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

“Let people be who they are. Adjust your proximity accordingly.” – NineFrogs

Which one are you?

You know?

Right now?

As in, right now.


I’ve been asked.

Quite a few times.

Over the years.

What motivates me?

Who motivates me?

Where am I going?

And the BIG one?

How do I keep doing what I’m doing?

For so long?

My answer would be:

My competition.

And, my competition would be me.

That’s right.

Everyday I work to do better than.

The day before.

Don’t get me wrong.

There have been plenty of times.

When I was ready to throw in the towel.

Times when it seemed.


Absolutely NOTHING was happening.

But then.

I would dust myself off.

And get back at it.

Because, this is what I know.

I was born to do this.

It just took me a long time.

To figure that out.

And you know what?

That’s ok.

Because once I realized that.

There has been no stopping me!


When I started this journey.

I knew it wasn’t going to be easy.


I had NO idea.

It would be this hard.


Sincerely hard.


So worth it.

I can’t tell you.

The satisfaction.

I get from.

Doing what I do!

Because, I have said.

I was born to do this.

Everything I have done before this.

Was simply practice.

Because everything I have learned prior to this.

Has helped me along the way!

Listen, to be successful.

You HAVE to think it’s possible.

That’s something a lot of people.

Don’t consider.

You can’t.

Be walking around.

Thinking: HOW can this happen?


Leave ‘HOW’ out of the equation.

As Mike Dooley would say.

Your job.

Is to keep.

Doing what you’re doing.


Just keep getting.

Better at it!

Because, you will never get there.

If you give up!

So, you ask?

How do I motivate myself?

It’s funny.

I don’t even have to motivate myself.

It just happens.

Now, I’m not going to lie.

I am not one of those people.

Who get up at 5:00am.

Ready to go.

Oh no.

I am a far cry from that.

No, I am more of a 10:00am-11:00am.

Kind of person.

It takes me some time to get out of bed.

Because I know once I’m up.

I’m up and running.

And quite honestly.

Some days it’s exhausting just to think about it.

But, I do it anyway!

That’s what this whole entrepreneurial thing.

Is all about.

People ask me.

How do I come up with new ideas?


I they just come to me.

And the thing you have to understand is this:

Some work.


Some don’t.

But, that’s ok.

It’s all part of the program as they say.

Want to grow?

Don’t be afraid to fail.

And I’ve failed plenty.


When you’re doing what you love.

It doesn’t feel like ‘work’.

And if it does?


Change the way you do it.


Find something else.

The minute I do anything.


It starts to feel like ‘work’.

I know I shouldn’t be doing it.

Everything should just flow.

As Gary V always say.

You know you’re in your flow.

When, well, it just flows.

I don’t know how to really explain it.

Other than to say.

If whatever you are doing.

Doesn’t light you up.

Stop doing it.


Find another way to do it.

Because, the whole point.

Of having your own things.

Is to do the things you love!

Who is there?

I’ve said this.

About a million times before.

It’s all about mindset.

I’ve written about this countless times.

Many, many times before. “How can I be the best?” (5.13.2021)

It’s all in HOW you think.

Like the saying goes?

“If you think you can or you think you can’t.

You’re right!”


Think positive.

Think love.

Think success.

Think possibilities.

Think confidence.

Think determination.

Think “I Can Do This!”

You HAVE to learn.

How to motivate yourself!

I’ve learned.

The hard way.


“If you don’t have a seat at the table,

You’re probably on the menu.”


I made my OWN table.

And now.

People ask me.

If they can sit at it?

See how that works?

It’s called.

Taking your power back.

Stop giving it.

To just anybody!



They don’t deserve it!


The longer you do something.

Like me.

You figure out.

Who deserves your respect.


Who doesn’t.

Who is there?

“Inspired by the fear of being average.”

One of my favorite quotes!

Seriously, who wants to be average?


You’re here for a reason.

You are HERE.

In THIS time.

In THIS place.

So, what are you going to do?

With your precious time?

That’s the kind of thinking.

That motivates ME!

I think about that ALL the time.

What can I do?

To help other people?

To help my business grow?

That’s how my mind works.

Sh*t IS hard.

Do it anyway!

Another great motivator.

Figuring things out.

Things you had absolutely.

No idea HOW to do.

Only now you have to figure them out.

Over the years.

I have figured out.

Plenty of things.

I had NO idea.

How to do?


I actually amaze myself some days.

With the amount of sh*t.

I have figured out how to do.

Trust me when I tell you.

You are smarter than you think.

“Who is around you and who is down for you are two totally different things.”

Remember that!

EVERYONE isn’t your person.

It’s okay to be selective.

Because remember.

The people around you.

Will either lift you higher.


Weigh you down.

Trust me, I know!

Motivational tip of the day:

Write it down!

That’s it!

These days.

I call myself.

The Queen of lists.

I’m constantly writing.

And, rewriting lists.


That’s what works for me.

You do what works for you.

The point is.

If you want to motivate yourself.

You have to have you shi*t together!

Project Management #101!

Which one are you?

Have you heard?

I wrote a book.

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Release date: Available now on Amazon!

Click link for purchase: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMSP3LTJ

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

Lastly, make sure you follow me on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – Subscribe to my YouTube Channel and follow me on TikTok!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

“Which one are you?”


1027 St. Johnland Road, Kings Park, NY 11754


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