“Where are we going?” (9.18.17)

Go way out, Patricia Bokowski
Think beyond your present dreams, to the dreams youโ€™ll have once they’ve already come true. And when you can clearly imagine how confident you will walk and how proud you will feel, start walking and feeling like that today. 
Far out, 
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Patricia Bokowski, people are going to start talking about you in whispers. “Shhhh… just look… whis-whis-whis… Midas touch… whis-whis-whis-whis… cool shoes….”

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs


Where are we going?

There are a lot of people asking that question these days.

So let me ask you?

Do you work on yourself everyday?

Or, is it every once in a while?

Some people. 

The lucky ones.

Are born with it.


I firmly believe it’s not that many.

Including myself.

Most of us have to work at it daily!

I know.

I was one of ‘those’ people.


Here’s the thing about confidence.

Once you “have it”.

You want more.


You’ll want to take it to the next level. 

So the question is…

Are you ready?


Rule #1: Believe in Yourself!  

You have to have unwavering belief in yourself. 

You have to know what you want so badly.

That nothing can stop you from getting it.

So unwavering.

That if anyone tells you otherwise.

You take it with a grain of salt.


That kind of confidence!

Rule #2: Surround Yourself With People Who Believe In You!  


You are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with.  

So choose wisely.

As I often say these days: “If your circle doesn’t clap at your wins, get a new circle.”

I cannot stress how important this is in your life.

If you want to be more confident.

Hang with confident people!

Rule #3: Pursue Greatness Every Day!  

What is it that motivates you?  

Are your dreams and desires in-line with your actions?

Do you know where you are heading? 

Because if YOU don’t know.

Any road will take you there!

As I’ve said before,.

As Mike Dooley says? do not concern yourself with the cursed “hows”…

that is not for you to think about.  

No one knows “how” it will happen.  

That’s not your job.

Your job is to do whatever you can with whatever you have.


That kind of confidence.

Rule #4: Wake Up With Enthusiasm For Your Life!

Knowledge is wonderful.

Only it’s enthusiasm that pulls the switch!

Having genuine enthusiasm helps a great deal in the quest for great self-confidence.  

You need to be excited about everything, everyday!  

And if you don’t have something to be excited about.

Then you need to ask yourself, why not?

Rule #5: Dress Sharp!  

That’s my #1 rule for being more confident.

When you look in the mirror and like what you see.

That’s the kind of stuff that helps you move mountains my friends.

And when you are happy with what you see on the outside.

That usually means the inside is happy as well.

Killer combination for amazing confidence.


Rule #6: SMILE 

I use this one all the time.

And I make no apologies about it!  ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

The sheer act of smiling gives you confidence. 

It boosts your adrenaline.

Which sends out endorphins, which in turn, makes you feel better. 

Like what happens when you exercise, only easier!

I’ve probably said this before, and I’ll say it again!

I often receive compliments about my smile ๐Ÿ˜‰

That to me is a gift.

And so.

If you are lucky enough to have been given a gift.

It is YOUR job to share it with as many people as you can!

Rule #7: Be The Best Version Of Yourself!

Work on yourself every day.

And you will start seeing a difference in YOU!  

No need to copy anyone else.  

You are unique, remarkable and fabulous.  

Problem is, most people don’t take the time to get to know themselves.  

Most people don’t spend enough time alone to find out “who” they are.

Which, in my opinion.

Is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself.

Spend some quality time alone everyday!

In order to be gain the kind of confidence you are looking for.

You need to know who you really are.

Rule #8: Take An Adventureโœˆโœˆโœˆ

Do something out of the norm.  

It doesn’t have to entail hopping on a plane.

Take yourself to lunch!  

Get in your car one morning and take a drive to somewhere you’ve never been.  

It doesn’t have to be far away>

Maybe there’s some place you’ve been longing to go back and visit again.  

If you keep living the same life day in and day out.

You start living your life like Ground Hog’s Day.

And no one wants that!

Rule #9: Take Up Public Speaking!

Now I  know many of you would rather die.

Then take up public speaking.

That’s a scientific fact!

Which, when you think about, is pretty funny.  

People would rather die than stand in front of a group of people and give a speech.

Yes, it can be daunting.  

No doubt!

It’s also a huge rush.

One you wouldn’t expect.


It’s also a great way to push yourself.

To get out of your comfort zone.  

And see what you’re really made of.

Now, you may think?

How can I do that Patricia?  

My best advice.

Join your local Toast Masters (they are all over the world).  

As for me.

I did it a different way.

I took a Dale Carnegie class that changed my life back in 2008 or so.

It was absolutely pivotal for me in my public speaking confidence.  

To the point, that I gave the winning speech at our last class and won the prize.

And what was my speech about?

About how I was going to use everything I got out of that class.

To eventually, one day become a motivational speaker!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

That’s right.

That’s where this girl is heading!

There you have it!

My 9 life hacks to be more confident.  

Self-confidence is the “thing” that helps propel you to where you want to be.

It helps you do those things that are scary.  

It also makes you attractive to others. 

Like, really attractive (that’s a blog for another day). 

And trust me!

Once you have it.

You’ll just keeping working on yourself for more.

Where are we going?

UPDATE: I’m writing a book.

It’s titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Anticipated release date: 10.31.2021

Stay tuned for further updates!

Lastly, make sure to follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming real soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!

“Where are we going?”



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