“Know your worth!” (8.29.19)

Sometimes I feel like I’ve waited forever,ย Patricia Bokowski, just to be you.

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“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

I believe that’s how most women feel these days!

We have to be, we do EVERYTHING.

To everybody! NineFrogs Daily QUOTE OF THE DAY:

And, we are responsible for EVERYONE.

Including their HAPPINESS.

It’s exhausting being a woman these days.

Extra difficult if you are a business woman/entrepreneur/businessowner/trying to better yourself/etc/etc.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

On a daily basis, I speak with a lot of women, and every one of them seems to feel this way!

Today, I honor all the hard-working women, including myself.๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธ

We don’t get enough accolades as to how amazing we are!

As such, this blog goes out to all the hard-working entrepreneurs/business people/career people.etc!

There are literally so many people I could crush right now๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

People who have done me wrong๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Like, so wrong!

Only I have learned to wait.

Ten years and counting.

But, I’ll wait a bit longer.

Until the time is right.

Then I am going to share MY story๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

As in.

I’m writing a book.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

‘Ten Years Later, a Whistle Blowers tale of lies, deceit and betrayal.”

That’s the working title.

Will mostly change it.

YES, you will!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

That’s not for you to worry about!

Do it anyway๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

Because the minute you start doing what’s right for YOU.

And not for them, you will starting living your truth!

And a lot of people won’t like it.

Their problem, not yours๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ


When people say you can’t do it, it means they don’t see HOW it can be done?

Only, they aren’t YOU๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

You are smart!

And have resources!


Is a resource right there!

Helps you solve your problems๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

BE THAT girl!

BE the girl who doesn’t take NO for an answer!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

There is a clip on Pinterest, with Tyler Perry in character as Medea,.

And he’s giving advice to a young man who just had his heart broken.

And this is what she says (and I’m paraphrasing):

“Go home, have a good cry if you want. And then pick yourself up and move on.

If you have done everything you can to make someone happy, and they want to leave, LET THEM LEAVE!”

Sound advice.

I love that๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

There is a difference between being cocky and being confident!

Confidence doesn’t make others feel bad about themselves.

It took me a long time to feel that kind of confidence.

Let me tell you,.

Once you have attained that kind of confidence.

You have truly leveled up.

That’s the kind of stuff.

That helps you make those dreams come true!


So please don’t.

And remember, you are SO worthy of everything!

By the way, if there is someone in your circle.

Be it family/lover/friend/etc. who doesn’t make you feel that way.

It’s time to remove them from your life.

Don’t ever let anyone disrespect you!

Including yourself๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I love that <3

LOVE may come and go!

Your career will always be there for you!

Thank you Lady Gaga!

True that!

Sometimes we think everyone is going to be so happy for us, only to find out they’re not.

As a result, I have found it best in my life to keep some good news either to myself.

Or just my inner circle.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

The harsh reality is not everyone is going to be genuinely happy for you.

What can you do?

YOU Be HAPPY for YOU๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

It has taken me a long time to finally get that place.

And I can tell you, it is absolutely freeing just not caring what others think about you!

The thing is, people are going to talk about you no matter what if that is their intention.

So let them talk.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

You’re too busy working on your dreams to care what anyone thinks of you!

So yeah, be that woman!

I’ve recently had some life events which have caused me to be that girl!

And I’ll be honest with you, I was afraid.

Like, really afraid!

But, I did it anyway.

Ever since, not so afraid of much now ๐Ÿ˜‰

That’s the thing about over-coming your fears!!!

Sometimes you just have to bite-the-bullet and just do it!

BE the girl who is willing to fight for what she deserves.๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Š

God, how true is that?

Every woman I know over 40.

So sick of EVERYONE’S sh*t. ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Said every woman everywhere!

We’ve all been there!

I call this ‘nice women’s syndrome’.

Where we don’t want to offend anyone.

Or cause a scene.

God forbid, make trouble for anyone else.

So we eat it, so to speak.

Until the war inside us is too much to bear.

And a decision needs to be made.

The war inside us vs. the war against us.

And I hope if you find yourself in this place.

Like me.

I sincerely hope that you choose to go to war!!!

Because I am ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

That’s right!

If people wanted you to write “nice” things about them, they should have treated you better!

I believe it’s time we all start speaking and sharing our truths.

They are your stories.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

You owe it to yourself to share them with the world.

That’s how other people can learn from you.

Know your worth!

“Be that girl who roots for the other girl, tells a stranger her hair looks amazing, and encourages other women to believe in themselves and their dreams!”

I heard this amazing quote the other day, by a woman named Leonie Dawson.

She is a super-successful entrepreneur (Google her).

I have been a fan of hers for about ten years now, and recently took one of her on-line courses.

Here’s the quote: “Lord, grant me the confidence of a mediocre middle-aged white man.”

Know your worth!

Moral of the story.


Stop taking other people’s sh*t!

Stand up for yourself.

Tell your story.

If people wanted you to write nicely about them.

They should have been nicer to you!

Enough is enough.

Grab your sword and fight for what is yours.

You deserve it all!

Know your worth!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

Know your worth!



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  1. Snigdha January 7, 2020

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