“Know your worth!” (8.29.19)

Sometimes I feel like I’ve waited forever,Β Patricia Bokowski, just to be you. The Universe / Know your worth!

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

I believe that’s how most women feel these days!

We have to be, we do EVERYTHINGπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And, we are responsible for EVERYONEπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Including their HAPPINESSπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

It’s exhausting being a woman these days.

Extra difficult if you are a business woman/entrepreneur/businessowner/trying to better yourself/etc/etc.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

On a daily basis, I speak with a lot of women, and every one of them seems to feel this way!

Today, I honor all the hard-working women, including myself.πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

We don’t get enough accolades as to how amazing we areπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

As such, this blog goes out to all the hard-working #bossbabes πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

There are literally so many people I could crush right nowπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

People who have done me wrongπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Like, so wrong!

Only I have learned to wait.πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

Wait, until the time is right to do something about it.

Until it is time to tell MY storyπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

In the meantime, I just sit back and smile.

YES, you will!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

That’s not for you to worry about!

Do it anywayπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

Because the minute you start doing what’s right for YOU, and not for them, you will starting living your truth!

And a lot of people won’t like it.

Their problem, not yoursπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ


When people say you can’t do it, it means they don’t see HOW it can be done?

Only, they aren’t YOUπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

You are smart!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And have resources!

Knows how to GOOGLE stuff😁😁😁

Is a resource herselfπŸƒβ€β™€οΈπŸƒβ€β™€οΈ

Has the ability to find the people to help her solve her problemsπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

YOU are THAT girlπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

And if not…BE THAT GIRLπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

There is a clip on Pinterest, with Tyler Perry in character as Medea, and he’s giving advice to a young man who just had his heart broken, and this is what she says (and I’m paraphrasing):

“Go home, have a good cry if you want. And then pick yourself up and move on.

If you have done everything you can to make someone happy, and they want to leave, LET THEM LEAVE!”

Seems like sound advice.β™₯β™₯β™₯

I love thatπŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

There is a difference between being cocky and being confident!

Confidence doesn’t make others feel bad about themselves.

It took me a long time to feel that kind of confidence.

Let me tell you, once you have attained that kind of confidence, you have truly leveled up☝☝☝

YOU SO ARE!πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

So please don’t.☹☹☹

And remember, you are SO worthy of everything!πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

By the way, if there is someone in your circle, be it family/lover/friend/etc. who doesn’t make you feel that way, it’s time to say bye-byeπŸ–πŸ–πŸ–

Don’t let anyone disrespect you, including yourselfπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

I love that <3

LOVE may come and go!

Your career will always be there for you!

Thank you Lady GagaπŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

True that!

Sometimes we think everyone is going to be so happy for us, only to find out they’re not.

As a result, I have found it best in my life to keep some good news either to myself, or just my inner circle.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

The harsh reality is not everyone is going to be genuinely happy for you.

What can you do?

Be HAPPY for YOUπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

It has taken me a long time to finally get that place☝☝☝

And I can tell you, it is absolutely freeing just not caring what others think about you!

The thing is, people are going to talk about you no matter what if that is their intention.

So let them talk.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

You’re too busy working on your dreams to care what anyone thinks of you!

So yeah, be that woman☝☝☝

I’ve recently had some life events which have caused me to be that girl☝☝☝☝☝

And I’ll be honest with you, I was afraidπŸ˜‘πŸ˜‘πŸ˜‘

Like, really afraid!

But, I did it anyway.🦾🦾🦾

Ever since, not so afraid of much now πŸ˜‰

That’s the thing about over-coming your fears!!!

Sometimes you just have to bite-the-bullet and just do itβœ”βœ”βœ”

BE the girl who is willing to fight for what she deserves.πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

God, how true is that?

Every woman I know over 40πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

So sick of EVERYONE’S shit. πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Said every woman everywhere!

We’ve all been there!

I call this ‘nice women’s syndrome’.πŸ‘ˆ

Where we don’t want to offend anyone.

Or cause a scene.

God forbid, make trouble for anyone else.

So we eat it, so to speak.

Until the war inside us is too much to bear. ☹☹☹

And a decision needs to be made.

The war inside us vs. the war against us.

And I hope if you find yourself in this place.

Like me.

I sincerely hope that you choose to go to war!!!

Because I am πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

True enough! https://www.ninefrogs.com

If people wanted you to write “nice” things about them, they should have treated you better!

I believe it’s time we all start speaking and sharing our truths.

Times up.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

“Be that girl who roots for the other girl, tells a stranger her hair looks amazing, and encourages other women to believe in themselves and their dreams!”

I heard this amazing quote the other day, by a woman named Leonie Dawson.

She is a super-successful entrepreneur (Google her).

I have been a fan of hers for about ten years now, and recently took one of her on-line courses.

Here’s the quote: “Lord, grant me the confidence of a mediocre middle-aged white man.”

Moral of the story.


Stop taking other people’s crap. πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Stand up for yourself.

Tell your story.

If people wanted you to write nicely about them.

They should have been nicer to you!

Enough is enough.

Grab your sword and fight for what is yours.

You deserve it all!

Lastly, make sure you follow me on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸

Need a smile?

Check out my TikTok videos, guaranteed to make you smile πŸ™‚

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!



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