If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door! (3.25.19)

A philosophical journey from here to there…
Patricia Bokowski, do you think that if ten million dollars were to be suddenly deposited into your checking account, that over the following months and years you’d have fewer and fewer challenges? Or do you think, perhaps, that your challenges would simply evolve and change? 
Right, evolve and change. 
And do you think that with your extra $10 million, you’d gradually be presented with more and more opportunities to be happy? Or do you think, perhaps, that your opportunities would simply evolve and change? 
Right, evolve and change. 
Now, doesn’t that answer everything? 
Beeb, beeb –   The Universe
If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door!

God knows, there are a lot of doors out there.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And you have to realize, some of them may not be your door.

So stopping knocking on doors that aren’t yours!

That is what messes some people up, they get stuck on one door, that wasn’t even THEIR door!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

“If a door doesn’t open for you, it’s not your door.”

Which is NOT to say, you give up๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ

What is truly yours won’t ever be withheld from you๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I think that sentence messes with a lot of people.๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

They get so hung up on THAT “door” and if it doesn’t open, they spend the rest of their lives waiting for it to open. 

Forgetting the fact that it’s just not “their” door.

And that can be a door to love, business, relationships, career, friends, life…it doesn’t matter which one.  ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Once closed, leave it and find a new door.๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™€๏ธ

You can change your life at any second, all you have to do is “try”.

People forget, life can literally change in a nano-second!!!

So remember, there are millions of doors out there, your job is to find the door(s) that are meant for you.  ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And the only way you are going to find “your” door, is to knock on as many as you can! #knockknock

Kermit the Frog๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ

If it’s love you’re looking for, that means meeting as many potential “loves” as you can until you find your LOVE.โคโคโค

Perhaps you’re looking for a new career?

Well then, try as many different jobs you can until you find the one that spurs your passion and feels like home.๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ

Starting a new business (I can so relate to this one)?

You might have to try several business models until you find the ONE that works for you!

Again, you don’t give up the goal, you just get creative in finding ‘the door’ that’s going to work for you๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

“When nothing is sure, anything is possible!”

Anything and everything is possible!

If you want to work life’s magic, all you have to do is get out there, in the world, meet new people, and go new places.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Back in 2012, I had no idea what I was doing (which I’ve spoken about before) when I started my business. 

But, one thing I did know!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I knew for sure that I had to get myself “out there” and meet as many people as I could, like many!

I wanted to let as many people know;

Who I was: ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And it went like this, ‘Hi, I’m Patricia Bokowski, and my business is called NineFrogs (then questions about what an interesting name it is, and, how did I come up with it?)’

What services I was offering: ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I’m an Image Consultant and Personal Shopper. To which most people would comment, ‘how interesting.’

And where did I plan on taking NineFrogs into the future:๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I knew even back then that I would be taking ‘most’ (not all) of my business on-line!


If I told you how many people I have met for a cup of coffee over the years.๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ

Or, how many networking events I have attended.๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

How many phone calls I’ve had with complete strangers.โœ”โœ”โœ”

All in the name of pursuing my goal of growing my business into an internationally successful business๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

THAT’S how you find your door.ย  https://www.ninefrogs.com

By knocking on any door that sounds like it might be your door.

Even if it’s a long-shot, take it!

Worse that can happen.

Wrong door๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜–

And when it’s not your door, which trust me, I’ve knocked on many doors that weren’t mine…


As in, get the fucc out asap!๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ

When it’s not your door, there is no point in staring at the door, or feeling sorry for yourself because it’s not your door ;-(

And again, that goes for business, love, life, etc….

You name it.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

If it doesn’t work for you, LEAVE.

You just move along to the next door.  ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

And guess what?

There are an infinite amount of doors to try and open.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

So don’t give up hope if something doesn’t work and it’s not YOUR door.

It just means you need to try a little again and find more doors๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ

My favorite, number 10.โ˜โ˜โ˜

It’s okay to let go and move on!

There is no sense in trying to hold on to something when it’s not working.

Be it a job, a relationship, friend or even a way of doing business. 

Once it’s done, it’s done.๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡

And don’t let someone else tell YOU which is YOUR door๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

People mean well. They say things like, ‘oh, you should do that.’

No. ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜–

You are the only one who can tell if it is your door. 

And you alone.๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

Again, people will say things like, “hey you should try such and and such” or “why don’t you do xyz”.

For the most part, they mean well. 

Only, they are directing you to the door THEY think you should be knocking on.

And trust me, it’s usually the ‘safest’ door.

Not necessarily the door YOU want to be knocking on. #knockknock

See the difference?

Watch where you knock.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

It’s taken me a long time, and a lot of experiences, to know which doors sound viable to me these days.

But, you only get to that point, after you have knocked on SO MANY doors.

And, trust me, I’m still knocking, just a tad smarter on which doors I knock on ๐Ÿ˜‰

So please, keep knocking!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

Something else that most forget.
There is a lesson in everything.



Comments (2)

  1. Michael Ault March 24, 2019
    • Patricia Bokowski March 25, 2019

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