“If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door!” (3.25.19)

A philosophical journey from here to there…
Patricia Bokowski, do you think that if ten million dollars were to be suddenly deposited into your checking account, that over the following months and years you’d have fewer and fewer challenges? Or do you think, perhaps, that your challenges would simply evolve and change? 
Right, evolve and change. 
And do you think that with your extra $10 million, you’d gradually be presented with more and more opportunities to be happy? Or do you think, perhaps, that your opportunities would simply evolve and change? 
Right, evolve and change. 
Now, doesn’t that answer everything? 
Beeb, beeb –   The Universe
/ If it doesn’t open it’s not your door meaning!

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – The Frog’s Den

We all know.

There are a lot of doors out there.

The question is?

How many have you been knocking on?


Can you realize that not all doors are for you?

So stopping knocking on doors that aren’t yours!

That is what messes some people up.

They get stuck on one door, knocking and knocking.

That wasn’t even THEIR door!👈👈👈

“If a door doesn’t open for you, it’s not your door.”

Which is NOT to say, you give up.

What is truly yours won’t ever be withheld from you👈👈👈

It just means you need to find another door.

Because this is what happens to people who won’t do that.

They get so hung up on THAT “door”.

And if it doesn’t open.

They spend the rest of their lives waiting for it to open. 

Forgetting the fact that it wasn’t even their door to begin with!

And that can be a door to many things:

love, business, relationships, career, friends, life.

…it doesn’t matter which one. 

The thing is.

Once closed, leave it and find a new door.

You can change your life at any second.

Seriously, all you have to do is “try”.

People forget, life can literally change in a nano-second!!!

There are millions of doors out there.

Your job is to find the door(s) that are meant for you.  👈👈👈

And the only way you are going to find “your” door.

Is to knock on as many as you can!

Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸

It always amazes me is how quick people are to stop knocking on doors.

Like, they knock on a few doors.

They don’t get the results they want.

And now, they stop knocking entirely.

Let’s say, you want to buy a car.

And let’s say, you have a limited budget.

You call a few places.

Maybe you even visit a few places.

And you find nothing.

So you say, ‘that’s it, I’m never going to find anything’.

That goes for looking for a new job, apartment, house, partner, and so on.

You get the idea.

Hustle needs to be your new best friend.


Keep knocking on those doors until you find the one.

The one that may lead to where you want to go.

And never stop knocking until you get there!

Anything and everything is possible!

If you want to work life’s magic,

all you have to do is get out there,

in the world,

meet new people,

and go new places.👈👈👈

Back in 2012.

I had no idea what I was doing (which I’ve spoken about before) when I started my business. 

But, one thing I did know!👈👈👈

I knew for sure that I had to get myself “out there”.

And meet as many people as I could.

I wanted to let as many people know;

Who I was: 👈👈👈

What services I was offering: 👈👈👈

What I was all about:👈👈👈

I’m sure I’ve told you.

Over the years.

I’ve met quite a few people for coffee.

People I’ve met at networking events.

With a follow-up cup of coffee to get to know one another.

Or, how many phone calls I’ve had with complete strangers.

Something I don’t do anymore.

But, back then it was a necessity.

All in the name of getting me and my business ‘out there’.

THAT’S one of the ways you find your door. 

By knocking on any door that sounds like it might be your door.

Even if it’s a long-shot, take it!

Worse that can happen.

Wrong door.

And when it’s not your door, which trust me, I’ve knocked on many doors that weren’t mine…


As in, get the f*ck out asap!

When it’s not your door.

There is no point in staring at the door.

Or feeling sorry for yourself because it’s not your door.

You know anything about The Rock’s career?

Do you know how many different things he did until he found success?

I mean, real success?

He did many things.

That’s what I’m talking about.

He knocked on plenty of doors.

And he will be the first to tell you.

Many of them just did not work for him.

Did that stop him from knocking on more doors?

Absolutely not.

It just made him knock on more!

If it doesn’t work for you, LEAVE.

You just move along to the next door. 

And guess what?

There are an infinite amount of doors to try and open.👈👈👈

So don’t give up hope.

If something doesn’t work and it’s not YOUR door.

It just means you need to try a little again.

And find more doors.

My favorite, number 10.☝☝☝

It’s okay to let go and move on!

There is no sense in trying to hold on to something when it’s not working.

Be it a job, a relationship, friend or even a way of doing business. 

Once it’s done, it’s done.

Lastly, don’t let someone else tell YOU which Door is yours👈👈👈

People mean well.

They say things like, ‘oh, you should do that.’


You are the only one who can tell if it is your door. 

And you alone.

So please, keep knocking!👈👈👈


A lot.

As I’ve said.

Over the years. NineFrogs Daily:

I have counted on more doors than I can count.

Some doors were good.

And some, not so good.


I would never have found out if I hadn’t knocked on the doors.

If it doesn’t open, it’s not your door!👈👈👈

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrog’s on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

If it doesn’t open it’s not your door!



Comments (2)

  1. Michael Ault March 24, 2019
    • Patricia Bokowski March 25, 2019

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