“How can you tell?” (7.4.2021)

For every unexpected bump, turn, or squiggle on the path of life, Patricia Bokowski, you have two choices:
Accept it as if you yourself had meticulously planned it to take you even higher into the light, while being watched by 10,000 cheering angels who love you so much, you’re all they ever sing about. 
Or, accept it, kicking and screaming, as if it were some freak accident that had befallen you by chance that might keep you from knowing happiness.
I know which I would choose,  The Universe / “How can you tell?” / www.tut.com

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions” – NineFrogs

How can you tell?


Once you truly understand that.

Your life will be transformed.


You’ll never get tired.

Of hearing that.


That’s the thing about life.

All the choices you get to make!


Now that Summer 2021 is finally upon us.

You can start planning.

And as we all know.

Summer goes by in the blink of an eye.

So today.

I am sharing.

My list of things-to-do this Summer.


This is NOT your ordinary to-do list.


This isn’t a list of restaurants I think you should go.

Or famous attractions you should visit.


This is a list JUST FOR YOU.

A list to enrich your soul.

Which, by the way.

I figure we can all use.

After the last year and half we’ve all had.

Read it.

Then, pick the things that really resonate with you.

Happy Summer!

Be Happy!

After the events of the last year and a half.

It’s time to be happy again.

Even if things aren’t perfect.

Even if we aren’t back to ‘normal’.

You still deserve to be happy.

So if you put that one on the back burner.

Now is the time to bring it forward.

And, while you are at it.

Let your happiness shine out of your face.

Like the brilliant creature that you are!

Plan a trip (even if it’s for a day).

Now is the time to get out of your place.

And go on an adventure.

Even if it’s only one town over.

Think of a place you haven’t been to in a while.

So, whether you hop on a plane.


Or automobile.

Get yourself out there.

And take yourself on an adventure.

For me it’s Montauk.

I haven’t been there in forever.

And it’s one of my favorite places on earth.

I think it’s absolutely wonderful out there!

So, I’m making sure I get out there this Summer.

Connect with Mother Nature!


Whether you dip your toes in the sand.

Or, walk barefoot in the park.

There is nothing more soothing to the soul.

Than connecting with Mother Nature.

Whether it’s sand, grass or dirt.

There is nothing better to brighten your soul.

Than connecting with Mother Earth.

As my friend Helene says when she has a problem.

“Whether you are planting flowers.

Or, pulling weeds.

Mother Nature knows just what you need!

Bonus points if you live near the oceans.

If so, sit on the beach, toes in the sand.

And breathe in the salt water air.

Have fun (work will always be there).


You’re allowed to have some fun and not work 24/7.

I should talk 🙂

I’m doing it.

Making time to have fun again.

Going out.

Meeting up with friends.

Doing things I’ve been wanting to do.

And it’s Summer no less.

So now is the time to be FABULOUS!

Smile 🙂


Dare I say it.

But you already know I would.

Because I just about have smiling on every list I make.

Yes. SMILE 🙂

We can all see each other’s faces again.

So, make sure you have a big, brilliant and amazing smile on yours!


Because, there are still so many who can’t seem to find theirs.

So, you owe it to everyone around you.

To share yours with them!

Reconnect with Family & Friends!

A lot of us haven’t seen some family and friends for quite some time now.

I just saw my brother and sister-in-law last weekend at a family wedding.

And I can’t tell you how good it felt to be around family and friends again.

Like, we were dancing!

Like, how it used to be.

Which is kind of weird even saying?

So, plan some get-togethers with people you haven’t seen in a while.

I know I want to reconnect with a lot of people I haven’t seen in a bit.

And I know it will be amazing!

Eat good food and drink more water.


Because you deserve to feel FABULOUS!

And how do you get to feel fabulous?

By eating good food.

By drinking more water.

And, by moving your body.

We’ve all been stuck home for a long time.

Now is the time to get out and stretch your legs (so to say).


You don’t have to join a gym.

Or, sign-up for tennis lessons.

Just get out and move.

On your way to both feeling and looking AMAZING!

Do something you’ve always wanted to do!


Do something that’s been on your to-do list.


You’ve never actually done it.

Maybe you didn’t have the time.

Maybe, you weren’t sure you had the skills.

Maybe it is something that scares you.

(If that’s the case, you should DEFINITELY DO IT).

As for me.

I’m doing two things.

I am relaunching my TikTok.

How can you tell?

Have you heard?

I wrote a book!

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Available now on Amazon!

Click the link to purchase your copy today: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMSP3LTJ

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Both are a little terrifying tbh.

And thrilling as well.


I am doing them anyway.

As both have been on my to-do list for some time now.

And I am ready!

Life is all about!

How can you tell?

Remember that.

In this crazy world.

Where there seems to be a lot of chaos.

Look beyond.

And don’t get caught up in it.

Don’t let it suck you in.

And that goes for people too.

Don’t get sucked into other people’s drama.

Let me remind you.

Because YOU.

Too brilliant and wonderful to be sucked into anyone else’s drama.

If you want to shine bright (which you do).

You need to be the light!

And remember.

Mindset is everything.

Accept it and move on!

And remember.

Everything is a choice!

How can you tell?

Lastly, make sure you follow me on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – Subscribe to my YouTube Channel and follow me on TikTok!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

“How can you tell?”


1027 St. Johnland Road, Kings Park, NY 11754


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