“How can this be?” (8.23.17)

It’s part of nature’s built-in checks and balances, Patricia, that while there may be times when you think you can’t even help yourself, precisely in such moments there will always be someone else nearby… you can help, instead.
Which, I think you know, is actually one of the fastest ways to help yourself.
I hope that helps,
   The Universe / “How can this be?”
“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions!” – NineFrogs”

How can this be?


Don’t Have A “Crabs in a bucket” mentality.

And don’t hang around with people who do either!

This “crabs in a bucket” theory was told to me quite a few years ago.

I met a guy I met at a networking event for a cup of coffee.

And he told me this story.

And I truly hope.

That guy (who I haven’t in ages).

Sees this blog.


Crab Mentality – Wikipedia

Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket is a way of thinking best described by the phrase, “if I can’t have it, neither can you.”

Have you ever heard the term, Crabs in a Bucket?

It is a term used when describing how crabs.

Will pull one another back into the bucket.

So they can’t get out!

As it turns out.

People are very much the same way.

Think about it?

What happens when you put one crab in a bucket?  

It tries to escape.  

Now, put two crabs in a bucket and watch what happens?  

One crab starts to climb up the pail.

The other crab will pull on the other crab’s leg.

Until he falls off the wall and back into the bucket.

Note: life sometimes works like that too!

Now, think about that reference.

hen it comes to your success.  

There may be those around you that don’t want you to succeed.  

They like “where” you are, exactly where you are!

See, the minute you start “climbing out of the bucket” so to speak, they have a problem.

When you start improving yourself and going after your dreams.  


Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸

Watch out!  

Because that is when you might start getting dragged back “into” the bucket.

Sometimes it comes in the form of negative talk.

Often, passive aggressive behavior. NineFrogs Daily QUOTE OF THE DAY:

They will tell you they are only looking out for you.

A lot of it comes from them being scared they are going to lose you.

All very real feelings.

Only, you can’t let that stop you from pursuing your dreams.

And getting out of the bucket, so to speak.

Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸

You cannot.

And I can’t stress this enough.

Let other people stop you from pursuing your dream!

No matter what!

We all know people.

Especially the ones closest to us.

Can feel very threatened when someone close to them starts to change.  

Change is hard.  

It can make people feel uncomfortable.

It can make them feel insecure, sad, lonely, unsuccessful or perhaps even, unworthy.  

In any case,.

The result is the same, “them” attempting to pull you back into the pail.

My advice,.

Surround yourself with people who will LIFT YOU UP.


“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with!” Jim Rohn

Surround yourself with people who believe in YOU!

People who encourage you.

Who help guide you.

Who have your back and want nothing but the best for you!👈👈👈

On a personal note, I have a networking group that I go to every Friday for lunch. 

This wonderful group of fellow entrepreneurs and business owners, have my back 100% and are always rooting for me. 

And I for them!

That’s what it’s all about.

How do you find these people you might ask?


Just keep pursuing your dream and THEY will find you.

They always do!

Have you heard?

I’m writing my first book.

It’s been on my bucket list for some time now.

And now, I’m finally doing it!

It’s titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Anticipated Release Date: Spring/Summer 2022!

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos up now on TikTok & YouTube!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon.

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!



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