“How can I win?” (3.13.2021)

The long and short of it goes something like this… 
When one stops looking for the quick and easy way, Patricia Bokowski, and just deals with what’s already on their plate, the quick and easy way soon finds them. 
That one makes me hungry,   The Universe / How can I win? / www.tut.com

“If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission.” – NineFrogs

“Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing.” – Vincent T. Lombardi

Ever since I started my blog in 2015.

I have been writing about happiness.


You might ask?

Because I believe happiness is so important to all of us.

Especially these days.

More than ever.

People need to take care of their mental health.

And, unfortunately.

As far as I can see.

There are still A LOT of unhappy people out there.👈👈👈

How can I win”

So, today we’re talking all things ‘happy’!

And when I say happy.

Do I mean walking around all day long with a big sh*t eating grin on all day?

Of course not.

It means.

You wake up in a general state of happiness.

It means.

You can look at another human being and share a smile.

Because, as I’ve said countless time.

The world really really needs that now.

And I can’t be everywhere 🙂


Yes, I know we’re all wearing masks.

Yes, I know it’s kind of hard to tell.


Trust me.

You can tell.

True story.

This happened months ago.

Probably in the Fall.

I was sitting in my car in a parking lot (my son was in getting his hair cut).

I had my window open.

I see this lady pull up to her car with her groceries in a cart.

I look over at her.

I smile (I’m sitting in my car, so obviously, I had no mask on).

She sees me.

Kind of looks over and then turns away.

I go back to scrolling on my phone.

Not thinking twice about what just happened.

All of a sudden I hear “Hey, look, I’m smiling.”

And there’s my lady, no mask on, BIG smile on her face.

I say to her, ‘you just made my day.”

She looks and me and says, “you just made mine.”

People can tell.

How can I win?


I cannot emphasize this one enough.

Before you step out your door in the morning.

Take a quick look in the mirror and ask yourself.

Is this the image I want to show the world today?

Looking and feeling your best👈👈👈

Are signs of self-confidence.


When you have self-confidence.

You can do things you never would have imagined!

Like pursue all those dreams you have!

Am I right?👈👈👈


This is SO important.

Especially now.

If you are looking to build trusting relationships.

Look people in the eye.

Both, when listening and talking.

People want to be heard.

And not just with your ears.

Needless to say.

Since we’re all wearing masks these days.

Eye contact is super important. NineFrogs Daily QUOTE OF THE DAY:

How can I win?


Dale Carnegie wrote about this often in his writings.

Of the simple act of complimenting others.

In that not only do you get to make another person’s day.

And, make them feel better.

You receive the residual affect of feeling better for the act of doing it.

Read that again!


YOU will feel better.

Because YOU got to make some else’s day!

Am I right?


Even if it’s Chapstick.


Personally, I don’t understand how anyone can be happy without lipstick in their life?

I literally live for my pink lipstick!

Like, Lipstick and Happiness go hand-in-hand in my world.

Am I right?


If there is one thing the pandemic has shown me is this.

Life is too short to spend time with people who don’t clap when I have a win.👈👈👈

And you should feel the same way!

You know what they say.

“If your circle isn’t clapping for you, get a new circle.”👈👈👈

How can I win?


In past blogs, I would have said, Exercise Daily.

As in, hit the gym.

But, since that is a touchy subject these days.

A lot of debate on that subject!

But, that doesn’t mean you stop moving.

Do whatever it is you can to move about every day.

Take the stairs.

Park as far away as you can from where you are going so you can walk.

Or, take a walk.

Or a run if that’s your thing.

The point is, keep moving👈👈👈

Not only does moving and exercise keep you happy.

It also keeps you younger.

So, keep moving!


Whether it’s a tree or your grandmother.

Be it your significant other.

Your kids or your pet.

It’s good for your heart and soul.

And again, I know things are different.

But, you can work around it.

I saw my friend the other day who works at Home Depot.

We got to chat for a few minutes, and then.

As I was saying good bye to her.

She gave me big air hug 🤗🤗🤗

It was the cutest thing ever.

Where there’s a will.

There’s a way!


In everything you do.

With everyone you come in contact with.

Both personal and business.

There is nothing worse than a fake.


Most people can smell one a mile away.

Be genuine with your acts, words, smile and feelings.

That how you know you are in your flow.

In summary.

I know there will be people who read that list.

And say, “Sorry Patti, but none of those work for me.”

And then wonder.

Why they aren’t happy.


Happiness is a mindset.

Just like success.

It’s your choice.

So choose wisely!

Have you heard?

I’m writing a book.

Titled: How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!

Due date: 2.1.2022!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

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That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!

“How can I win?”



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