“How can I start?” (4.27.2020)

The thing to remember, Patricia Bokowski, to always remember, is that what you do, or don’t do, today, is what matters most. 
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“How can I start?


“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How can I start?

Ah, the age-old question.


To get yourself to the next level.


Even with the best intentions of doing something.


We manage to get in our own way.


Stop ourselves from doing it.  


We over think it.

Fill our heads with doubt.

Come up with a million reasons why it won’t work.



Conclude, that we absolutely cannot do whatever.

It is we wanted to do in the first place.


And we do it constanstantly.

And then wonder why we cannot do this wonderful thing we want to do?

Thus, wondering.

Why we never reach our goals.

And yet.

At the same time.

We are wondering?

What can I do?

Quick answer.

Stop getting in your own way.

Stop over-thinking everything!


Give yourself permission to succeed!

Where most people get it wrong.

That is 100% true!

There you sit.

Doubting yourself.

Every day.

While others, are afraid of your potential!

Please stop.

And don’t do that! 

Stop thinking so much, truly! 

The minute we start doing that.

We are robbing ourselves of the magic of the moment.

And the ‘magic’ is the best part👈👈👈

That’s the part where we come out of our comfort zone.


Push ourselves to do this ‘thing’.

Whatever that thing is for you!

And, once you’ve done that ‘thing’.

Just wait.


And see what The Universe has in store for you!

Only, you will never know.

Unless you actually DO THE THING🎯🎯🎯

So, if you are asking yourself this question:

What can I do?

The answer is simple.

Anything you put your mind too!

Here’s some free advice.

One of the first things you can do for yourself.

Is, STOP listening to other people.



‘Other’ people will tell you that you absolutely cannot do it.

Again, whatever that thing is that you want to do👈👈👈

That, is HOW you give your power away.

While also.

Feeding your brain more reasons why it won’t work.

Remember, your brain is listening to everything you say.

So if you say to it.

I can’t do this.

It will respond, you’re right, you can’t!

And will promptly give you a hundred reasons why you can’t do it.

It’s what we call:

Self-sabotage #101

Don’t get caught in the trap✔✔✔

Does it matter?


Do not tell other people.

And I don’t care who they are.

What you want to do!

As in most cases.

They will invariably tell you why you can’t!


Why it won’t work.


Why are you even going to try?

My experience has been.

Do it first.

Then let them know!

Look. I know they mean well.

It’s just.

They aren’t YOU.

They don’t have YOUR dreams.

YOUR passion.


YOUR desires.

I cannot stress this enough!

You have so much potential👈👈👈

Do you ever think about that?

Most people barely use an ounce of their potential.


Because they keep telling themselves they don’t have any!

Think about it!

How many times did you want to do something.

Only to talk yourself out of it?

For whatever reason?

Stop doing that!

That’s called getting in your own way BIG time☝☝☝


That’s not what we want!

We want you flourishing.

And doing all those things you desire to do!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

I’ve talked about this before.

When I first started my business in 2012.

I had NO IDEA what I was doing.

So of course, as a result.

I had many people telling me what I should or shouldn’t do.

I was so overwhelmed.☹☹☹

Who was right and who was wrong?

And, who’s advice should I take?

Needless to say.

It was a very confusing time for me.

My very first tattoo, The Lotus Flower and OHM Symbol

Ask me how many people did I tell I was going to get my first tattoo?

You’re right.


That’s right.

I told NO ONE I was getting a tattoo.


I knew EXACTLY what they would say:



You’re not a kid.

What about your business?

Really? A tattoo?

But guess what?

I did it anyway.

And I did it three more times after that.

And now, I’m going to be getting another one.

It’s my choice.

And mine alone.

No one else has to like it.

That’s what I’m talking about.

If it’s something you want to do.

(And obviously, not hurting yourself or anyone else).

Then do it.

You may surprise yourself!

My life these past nine years.

My primary focus.

And if anyone says: “What about your family? Aren’t they your primary focus?”

My answer: “Everything I do, I do for my family.”

Many years ago.

I read that when you’re going after your dreams.

You need to be selfish with yourself and your time.

And they were right.

That’s me these days.

Selfish with both my time and energy.

As I only have so much to give on a daily basis.

That’s truly what it boils down to in this ‘game of business’.

So, remember to keep asking yourself that important question”?

Does it matter?

Have you ever heard the phrase:

“It’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission”?

Sometimes you just need to ‘go for it’.

How else are you going to find ‘what you’re made of’?

How far you can go?


Try new things.

Be a risk-taker.

FYI, no one is asking you to jump out of an airplane.

There are plenty of risks you can take on the ground.

Just yesterday, on a whim, I put up a video story on my Pinterest account.

And, in case you have been living under a rock.

Video is the way these days.


If you haven’t done so, so far.

Try it!


At the end of the day.

When you think about it?

No matter what it is you want to do.

YOU NEED to do something different.

Whether you are a career person.


A business owner.

You need to mix it up and try different things.


If you keep doing the same thing.

You are going to keep getting the same results 🙁

And no one wants that!

So let me ask you?

What’s that one thing?

You know?

That idea you’ve had rattling around in the back of your head?

Only, you have come up with a 100 reasons.

WHY you can’t do it?👈👈👈

Or, why it won’t work!

Now, stop!

Reverse your thinking!

Think:  What one thing can I do today to make that “thing” a reality?

It literally can be anything!

And, there’s no right or wrong answer.

It’s just, you have to start.

Like, baby steps.

But, you have to take at least one.

Each of us is born with so much potential👈👈👈

Use it!

Every delicious morsel of it.

Don’t let a day go by without doing something special.

Look at the people around you?

Or. NineFrogs Daily “QUOTE OF THE DAY!”:

Who follows you on social media?

Put up a great motivational post.

Or, put up a short video.

Or, write a blog or short story and post it everywhere.

See how this works?

Now go and try it!

How can I start?


Under the heading:

Does it matter?

I’ve done something.

I’ve never done before.

I wrote my very first book!

Something I’ve had on my bucket list.

For some time now.

Like, years!

It’s titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Available now on Amazon!

Click link to purchase your copy today: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMSP3LTJ

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

The moral of the story.

Do that thing you’ve been wanting to do!

Like, actually do it!


Less talk.

More doing.👈👈👈

Does it matter?


It most certainly does!

How can I start?

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

Lastly, make sure to follow me on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – Subscribe to my YouTube Channel and follow me on TikTok!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth your while!

“How can I start?”


1027 St. Johnland Road, Kings Park, NY 11754


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