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“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs
How can I look good?
One of my favorite topics!👈👈👈
Why you might ask?
Because it is so important.
In both our personal and professional lives.
As we all know by now.
You literally have about 3-5 seconds (at best).
To make your first great impression.
I can tell you.
If I am going to like someone.
BEFORE they even open their mouth!
That’s how good I’ve gotten at it!
And, btw, that goes the other way as well!
I can tell in the blink of an eye.
When I meet someone new.
If they like me, or not.
Is more than looking pretty!
So, that is why.
It is SO important to make sure.
YOU always make a great first impression.
We’ve all had that experience.
The experience of meeting someone new.
Whether it is personal or business.
It doesn’t matter.
Because the rules are the same.
Usually, we have already make up our mind.
Whether we like them or not.
Before they even open their mouth.
Making a great first impression.
Has absolutely NOTHING to do with money!
I really do have it down to a science these days.
Before anyone says a word to me.
I can tell if I am going to like them or not!
I’m actually kind of ruthless about it.
And that goes for both my personal and professional life.
Now, your first thought might be.
It has everything to do with how they dress.
Everyone seems to think this.
Only you would be wrong!
Way back when.
Like five years ago.
I was working part-time at TJMaxx.
Because like many entrepreneurs, we need to eat and pay bills.
And a woman walked up to the counter.
(I worked in jewelry).
Looked right at me and said;
“OMG, you have the most beautiful make-up, you must be a professional makeup artist.”
Now, do you think she made a great first impression for me?
You bet she did!!!
Her genuine enthusiasm was contagious.
She had a beautiful smile.
And something just told me.
That her and I had just made a connection.
And I was right, she is now a client of mine!
I’m sharing my top “how to tips” of making a great first impression:
AKA – Looking good!
SMILE – yes, I know. I say it ALL THE TIME!
That’s because as much as I say it.
I still see people not smiling 😉
Anyone else out there on dating sites?
Do you see how many people aren’t smiling in their profile pictures?
If you aren’t smiling in your profile picture.
What are you like in real life?
I actually have it written in my profile.
That if you aren’t smiling in your profile picture.
Don’t write me!
That’s how important an issue it is with me.
When I meet someone new.
Again both professionally and personally.
I’m always looking to see if they are smiling 😉
YOUR ENERGY – The energy you bring into a room!
Are you lighting it up?
Or, bringing it down!
I get complimented on mine often.
Why you might ask?
Because I have a high amount of energy.
And bring it with me wherever I go!
When I’m meeting someone new.
I am very aware of the energy I bring.
And, if I am looking to make a GREAT first impression.
You can be sure, I bring it on BIG time.
Now, am I “on” all the time?
No. I reserve it.
As should you!
YOUR OUTFIT – Let me just say, wearing your PJ’s to 7-11 is NOT OK 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Holy shiz, what are some of you people thinking?
I see some outrageous outfits going there!
Men with socks and sandals, one of my pet peeves.
Dear God, I thought that look was gone, but NO, it’s till here👈👈👈
Loud and clear this Summer.
If you want to make a great first impression.
Make sure your outfit suits YOU well!
I don’t care whether you wear a uniform, scrubs, jeans and t-shirt or dressed to the nines!
Whatever your “uniform” is.
As Tom Ford would say.
Make sure you make your own statement in it!
YOUR ATTITUDE – Do you have a positive attitude?
If not, you need to change that asap!
Your attitude shapes the way you see the world.
Have a bad attitude?
And everything around you pretty much sucks!
These are THE SAME people who go to 7-11 and who are not smiling☹☹☹
I know, because every time I go there, I look.
Have a great attitude.
And you see the world in a whole new light.
OTHER’S can feel it, hence, looking good!
Side note here!
To all the people who tell me.
That they have a crappy attitude because they have problems in their life.
Guess what folks?
WE ALL DO 👈👈👈
THAT is NOT an excuse not to have a positive attitude.
Here’s a piece of advise for you.
Having a positive attitude actually HELPS when you have problems.
It actually helps you THINK better! NineFrogs Daily QUOTE OF THE DAY:
Try it, you might like it Life.
“Find your tribe, love them hard!”
Whenever I meet someone who I connect with.
I consider them part of ‘my’ tribe!
And most of them don’t even know they are in my tribe.
But I know.
These are my like-minded people.
That I enjoy talking to and spending time with.
Even if it just a few minutes a day!
I have zero tolerance for people who don’t have a positive-mindset👈👈👈
If you want to go around complaining all the time.
And feeling angry and negative.
Go knock your socks off!
Just NOT around me.
My tribe is filled with smart, ambitious, happy, people!
THE LITTLE THINGS – Because the little things add up to BIG things!
When’s the last time you got your haircut?
That goes for both women and men, and extremely important!
How do your nails look?
Might be time for a little polishing.
Lastly, if you really want to make a Great First Impression.
The next time you are meeting someone new?
Give them a genuine compliment!
I mean, who doesn’t like a compliment?
The will think you are a wonderful human being.
And remember you fondly.
The lady who gave me a compliment that day in the store.
Every time I see her.
I remember that compliment!
Just remember, it needs to be genuine!
I absolutely love this one!
Here’s a gentle reminder.
You don’t have to be like everyone else.
You are allowed to follow your own path.
However quirky it might be.
Actually, those are probably the BEST paths.
Because, you own it!
Have you heard?
I’m writing a book.
Anticipated release date: Summer 2022!
I cannot wait for you guys to read it!
Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos up now on TikTok!
That’s a wrap!
Till next time,
Patricia <3 always
NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!
“How can I look good?”