“How do I get to the top?” (7.20.17)

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“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How can I get to the top?

One of my favorite topics!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Why you might ask?

Because it is so important, in both our personal and professional lives.

As we all know by now, you have about 3-5 seconds (at best) to make your first impression.

I literally can tell if I am going to like someone BEFORE they even open their mouth!

That’s how good I’ve gotten at itπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

And, btw, that goes the other way as well!

I can tell when I meet someone new if they like meπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Just remember…

It’s a combination of your energy, body language and dress.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

So, that is why it is so important to make sure it is a great one!

We’ve all the experience of meeting someone new.

Whether it is personal or business.

And we have already make up our mind whether we like them or not.

Before they even open their mouth.

I know I do.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And, FYI, making a great first impression has absolutely NOTHING to do with money!


I’ve got it down to a science!

Before anyone says a word to me, I can tell if I am going to like them or not!

I’m actually kind of ruthless about it.

And that goes for both personal and professional lifeπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

Now, you might think it has to do with how they dress (everyone seems to think this).

Only you would be wrong!

Recently, I was out shopping.

And a woman walked by me, stopped, turned around and said, “OMG, you have the most beautiful make-up, just like a professional.”

Now of course I loved the compliment!πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

Only it was more about her enthusiasm, it was genuine.

She had a beautiful smile, and something just told me, that her and I had just made a connection.

And I was right, she is now a client of mine!


So today, I’m sharing my top “how to tips” of making a great first impression:


SMILE – yes, I know. I say it ALL THE TIME!

That’s because as much as I say it, I still see people not smiling πŸ˜‰

Anyone else out there on dating sights?

Do you see how many people aren’t smiling in their profile pictures?

I mean, if you aren’t smiling in your profile picture, what must you be like in person?

I actually have it written in my profile that if you aren’t smiling in your profile picture, do not write me!

That’s how important an issue it is with me.

And this goes for my professional life as well.

I like working with HAPPY clients πŸ˜‰

When I meet someone new (again both professionally and personally, I’m always looking to see if they are smiling πŸ˜‰


YOUR ENERGY – The energy you bring into a room!

Are you lighting it up?

Or, bringing it down!

I get complimented on mine often.πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

Why you might ask?

Because I have a high amount of energy and bring it with me wherever I go!

When I’m meeting someone new, I am very aware of the energy I bring.

And, if I am looking to make a GREAT first impression, you can be sure, I bring it on BIG time.

Now, am I “on” all the time?

No. I reserve it.

As should you!


YOUR OUTFIT – Let me just say, wearing your PJ’s to 7-11 is NOT OK πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈπŸ€¦β€β™€οΈπŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ

Holy shiz, what are some of you people thinking?

I see some outrageous outfits going on out there!

Men with socks and sandals, one of my pet peeves.

Dear God, I thought that look was gone, but NO, it’s till hereπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Loud and clear this Summer.

If you want to make a great first impression, make sure your outfit suits YOU well!

I don’t care whether you wear a uniform, scrubs, jeans and t-shirt or dressed to the nines!

Whatever your “uniform” is as Tom Ford would say, make sure you make your own statement in it!πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ


YOUR ATTITUDE – Do you have a positive attitude?

If not, you need to change that asap!

Your attitude shapes the way you see the world.

Have a bad attitude?

And everything around you pretty much sucks!

These are THE SAME people who go to 7-11 and who are not smiling☹☹☹

I know, because every time I go there, I look πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

Have a great attitude, and you see the world in a whole new light.πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

Bonus point, OTHER’S can feel it, hence, making a great first impression!


Side note here!

To all the people who tell me they have a crappy attitude because they have problems in their life.

Guess what folks?

WE ALL DO πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

THAT is NOT an excuse not to have a positive attitude😐😐😐

Here’s a piece of advise for you.

Having a positive attitude actually HELPS when you have problems.

It helps you THINK better!

Try it, you might like it Life. Embrace it! β€œBaby steps!” (10.20.2020)

Ok, back to your positive attitude😍😍😍


“Find your tribe, love them hard!”

Whenever I meet someone who I connect with, I consider them part of  ‘my’ tribe!

And most of them don’t even know they are in my tribe.

But I know.

These are my like-minded people that I enjoy talking to and spending time with, even if it just a few minutes a day!

I have zero tolerance for people who don’t have a positive-mindsetπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

If you want to go around complaining all the time, and feeling angry and sad, go knock your socks off!

Just NOT around me.

My tribe is filled with smart, ambitious, happy, smiling faces!



THE LITTLE THINGS – Because the little things add up to BIG things!

When’s the last time you got your haircut?

That goes for both women and men, and extremely important!

How do your nails look?

Might be time for a little polishing.


Lastly, if you really want to make a Great First Impression when you meet someone new?

Give them a genuine compliment!

I mean, who doesn’t like a compliment?

The will think you are a wonderful human being and remember you fondlyπŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

The lady who gave me a compliment that day in the store, every time I see her, I remember that compliment!

Just remember, it needs to be genuine!

So there you have it!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸

Need a smile?

Check out my TikTok videos today.

Guaranteed to make you smile πŸ™‚

That’s a wrap!

Till next time,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!






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