Patricia Bokowski, here’s some advice for those who come to you with long faces.
“If you’ve finally decided, once and for all, to be happy, yet you aren’t… then you haven’t yet decided to be happy, once and for all.”
Same goes for all the other stuff they’ve decided.
They’re that powerful. The Universe / “How can I?” / www.tut.com
“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs
How can I?
One of the most popular questions.
How can I?
Here’s the thing.
You can do anything you set.
Your mind too!
Including overcoming the.
Crabs in a bucket mentality.
What did you just say?
Crabs in a bucket?
WTH is that?
Keep reading dear reader.
Because, I want to make sure.
That you Do Not Have A “Crabs in a bucket” mentality.👈👈👈
When those around you are trying to better themselves.
And you can’t stand it!
I certainly hope not!
And don’t hang around with people who do either!👈👈👈
This “crabs in a bucket” theory was told to me years ago.
It was told to me by this guy I met through networking.
We met at The Dix Hills Diner for a cup of coffee.
He was the nicest person.
I hope somehow he sees this.
I bet he’d get a kick out of it!
I can’t even remember his name?
So, what is Crab Mentality?
Sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket.
Is a way of thinking best described by the phrase,
“if I can’t have it, neither can you.”👈👈👈
Have you ever heard the term?
I know I hadn’t at the time!
It is a term used when describing how crabs.
Will pull one another back into the bucket so they can’t get out!
As it turns out.
People are very much the same way.
Think about it?
What happens when you put one crab in a bucket?
It tries to get out.
Now, put two crabs in a bucket and watch what happens?
One crab starts to climb up the pail.
The other crab will pull on the other crab’s leg.
Until he falls off the wall and back into the bucket.
Note: life sometimes works like that too!
Now, think about that reference when it comes to your success.
There may be those around you that don’t want you to succeed.
They like “where” you are, exactly where you are!
See, the minute you start “climbing out of the bucket” so to speak.
They have a problem.
When you start improving yourself and going after your dreams.
Because that is when you might start getting dragged back “into” the bucket.
Sometimes it comes in the form of negative talk.
Often, passive aggressive behavior.
They will tell you they are only looking out for you.
A lot of it comes from them being scared they are going to lose you.
All very real feelings.
You can’t let that stop you from pursuing your dreams.
And getting out of the bucket, so to speak!
And I can’t stress this enough.
Let other people stop you from pursuing your dream!
No matter what!👈👈👈
We all know people.
Especially the ones closest to us.
Can feel very threatened when someone close to them starts to change.
Change is hard.
It can make people feel uncomfortable.
It can make them feel insecure, sad, lonely, unsuccessful or perhaps even, unworthy.
In any case.
The result is the same, “them” attempting to pull you back into the pail.
Surround yourself with people who will LIFT YOU UP.
And PUSH YOU OVER THE SIDE OF THE PAIL!!!
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with!”
Surround yourself with people who believe in YOU!
People who encourage you.
Who help guide you.
Who have your back.
And want nothing but the best for you!
As for all the others.
The ones who don’t feel like that?
Time to kick them to the curb.
You can do it nicely.
Or take baby steps doing it.
Just don’t see them as often.
You get the idea.
My circle so small these days.
It’s pretty much; me, myself & I.
I have a few friends.
I don’t see them all the time.
And you know what?
After I let loose some people from my life.
All the BS went with them.
My life is so much more peaceful now.
And I am calm AF as well.
Something to think about!
So, how do you find these people you might ask?
Just keep pursuing your dream and THEY will find you. 👈👈👈
They always do!
It all starts with you!
You have everything you need.
It’s all inside you.
It always has been.
It’s just, no one told you👈👈👈
Now you know!
Go forth and BE GREAT! NineFrogs “Quote of the Day”!
Have you heard?
I wrote a book!
Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!” – A Whistleblower’s Tale of Lies, Deceit & Betrayal!
Release date: Available now on Amazon – 11-23-2022!
I cannot wait for you guys to read it!
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That’s a wrap!
Patricia <3 always
NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!
“How can I?”
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