“How can I get more self-confidence?” (9.18.17)

Go way out, Patricia Bokowski
Think beyond your present dreams, to the dreams you’ll have once they’ve already come true. And when you can clearly imagine how confident you will walk and how proud you will feel, start walking and feeling like that today. 
Far out, 
  The Universe / How can I get more self-confidence?
Patricia Bokowski, people are going to start talking about you in whispers. “Shhhh… just look… whis-whis-whis… Midas touch… whis-whis-whis-whis… cool shoes….”

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

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What does having amazing self-confidence mean to you?

It is something you work at everyday?

Or, every once in a while?

Some people. 

The lucky ones, are born with it.

Although, from what I can tell, that’s not many.

Most of us have to work at it daily!

Because, once you “have it”, you’ll want to take it to the next level. πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And, in order get it, you will need to do things differently.

See, there is no cookie-cutter way to get there.

It is a combination of many things, done in a variety of ways!

I know one thing, it is an ever lasting daily journey.πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

Rule #1, Believe in Yourself!  

You have to have unwavering belief in yourself. 

You have to know what you want so badly that nothing can stop you from getting it.😣😣😣  

So unwavering, that when anyone tells you otherwise, you take it with a grain of salt.

Because YOU KNOW BETTER.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆOpportunity dances with those already on the dance floor! (5.3.2020)

Rule #2, Surround Yourself With People Who Believe In You!  πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Remember, you are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with.  ☝☝☝

Make sure those people believe in you, your dreams, and are there to lift you higher!

Rule #3, Pursue Greatness Every Day!  

What is it that motivates you?  

Are your dreams and desires in-line with your actions?

Where are you heading? 

Because if YOU don’t know, any road will take you there!

As I’ve said before, do not concern yourself with the “hows”…that is not for you to think about.  πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

No one knows “how” it will happen.  πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

Pursuing greatness is another way of saying; wake up with a deep desire to succeed at any cost! #ANY

Rule #4, Wake Up With Enthusiasm For Your Life!

Knowledge is wonderful, only it’s enthusiasm that pulls the switch!πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

Having genuine enthusiasm helps a great deal in the quest for great self-confidence.  β˜β˜β˜

You need to be excited about everything, everyday!  πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

And if you don’t have something to be excited about.

Then you need to ask yourself, why not?


Rule #5, Dress Sharp!  

Above all, nothing works better at giving you self-confidence than looking AND feeling good about yourself.  

You will see how much better you feel when you look in the mirror and like what you see!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And, when you look AND feel better about yourself!

You are more likely to reach those dreams you are trying to bring into fruition!


Rule #6, SMILE 

I use this one all the time, and I make no apologies about it!  πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

The sheer act of smiling gives you confidence. 

It boosts your adrenaline, which sends out endorphins, which in turn, makes you feel better. 

Like what happens when you exercise, only easier!


I’ve probably said this before, and I’ll say it again!

I receive compliments often about my smile πŸ˜‰

That to me is a gift, and if you are lucky enough to have been given a gift, it is YOUR job to share it with as many people as you can!

Rule #7, Be The Best Version Of Yourself!

Work on yourself every day and you will start seeing the difference in YOU!  πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

No need to copy anyone else.  

You are unique, remarkable and fabulous.  

Problem is, most people don’t take the time to get to know themselves.  

Most people don’t spend enough time alone to find out “who” they are.

Which, in my opinion, is one of the greatest things you can do to be successful in life!

Spend some quality time alone everyday!

In order to be the best version of yourself, you need to work on yourself on every level.


Rule #8, Take An Adventure✈✈✈

Do something out of the norm.  

It doesn’t have to entail hopping on a plane.

Take yourself to lunch!  

Get in your car one morning and take a drive to somewhere you’ve never been.  

It doesn’t have to be far away, maybe there’s some place you’ve been longing to go back and visit again.  

If you keep living the same life day in and day out, you start living your life like Ground Hog’s Day.

And no one wants that!

Rule #9, Take Up Public Speaking.  πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

Now I  know many of you would rather die than take up public speaking, that’s a scientific fact!

Which, when you think about, is pretty funny.  

People would rather die than stand in front of a group of people and give a speech😬😬😬.

Yes, it can be daunting.  

No doubt!

It’s also a huge rush.πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺ

Unexpected rush no less.

It’s a great way to test yourself and get out of your comfort zone.  😐😐😐

How can you do that you might ask?  

My best advice, join your local Toast Masters (they are all over the world).  

There is also a wonderful Dale Carnegie class (which I took as well), that was pivotal for me in my public speaking confidence.  

It know it can be terrifying, do it anyway!☝☝☝



There you have it, My 9 steps to amazing self-confidence.  

I’m not saying it is easy.

I am saying, it is worth it! 

Self-confidence is the “thing” that helps propel you to where you want to be.

It helps you do those things that are scary.  

It also makes you attractive to others.  

And once you have it, you’ll want more, trust me!

How can I get more self-confidence?

Lastly, make sure to follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸

Need a smile today?

Check out my TikTok videos today.

Guaranteed to put a smile on your face πŸ™‚

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!




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