“How can I find success?” (4.12.17)

Patricia Bokowski, here’s some advice for those who come to you with long faces.
“If you’ve finally decided, once and for all, to be happy, yet you aren’t… then you haven’t yet decided to be happy, once and for all.”
Same goes for all the other stuff they’ve decided.
Theyโ€™re that powerful.
  The Universe / How can I find success?
Always being your best, Patricia Bokowski, shining your brightest, and standing as tall as you can, pays far more dividends than one might ever imagine.

“Stop asking people who have never gone where you are going for directions!” – NineFrogs


How can I find success?

You have to take the stairs.

You have to actually work๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And that totally bums out a lot of people!

When they actually find out how long it takes to get to the top.


What they have to do to get there.

And how long it takes.

Like, a long time.

No easy fixes here.

Just hard work.

Day in and day out.

That’s why they say, there is no elevator to success.

You have to take the stairs. ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Because that’s how it works.

One step at a time.

One day at a time.

And for those that are interested to know!

There is no “one” book or step-by-step plan to take you there. ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Which trips many entrepreneurs up!

Rather, as far as I can tell.

There seems to be a different set of blue-prints for each of us.

What I do know is this.

(after my un-scientific research has shown).

Is that there are certain characteristics.

and/or behaviors.

You need to possess to help get you to the top.

The one simple trick, again, that trips so many up.

Is this. YOU HAVE TO START!!! ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

Today we’re talking about the characteristics of successful people.

Think Oprah.

Bill Gates.

Warren Buffett

Jeff Bezos

Kobe Bryant

You get the idea.

People who are hugely successful.

What characteristics do you think they have?

Characteristics that made them so successful.

I know there are many.


For me.

It boils down to one thing.

They didn’t give up๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ



Smile: “Smile.  It intimidates those who wish to destroy you!”

I know, I know.

Patti, you must have said this a million times!

I know, I talk about smiling a lot.

And again, that’s because it’s sooooo important!

Both for yourself.

And, your quest for success.

Have you ever seen a picture of Oprah, Bill Gates, Marc Zuckenberg not smiling?


Because they know.๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

Now you know.

Use it.

BTW, have you ever read the book, Think Rich, Grow Rich?

If you haven’t you should!


Self-Confidence:  Knowing who you are and what you are made of.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

That, is what is going to get you where you want to be!  

Having the absolute confidence in yourself and your abilities to get you where you want to be!

Because, in case you haven’t heard…

Not everyone is going to believe in you (trust me, they won’t).  

And that’s ok.

As long as you BELIEVE in you!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ



Dress for Success:  You dress for the job you want, not the one you have!  

There’s a reason they call it “Dress For Success”!

Granted, things are a bit different these days.

Dressing has taken on a whole new meaning.

Are you working from home?

Working in your pjs?

I’ve been asked this question quite a lot these past few months.

And, here’s my answer.

Wear what makes you feel good.

That’s it!

As I said, the rules have changed.

But, if you want to be successful. 

You still need to feel good AND look good.

However you can make that happen.

As for me, I’ve made it work for me.

See here…



How many clothes did you buy this Summer?

I hardly bought any.

Quite honestly, there was nothing to buy.

I think I bought like four new dresses.

No shoes (none I liked).

I bought some new makeup.

Got my haircut as soon as was allowed here in New York.

Then I dyed it. lol

And guess what?

I looked fabulous any day I went out!

I know, because I received many compliments!


Attitude:  As Winston Churchill said, “Attitude is a little thing that makes a BIG difference!”

So what’s your attitude like these days?

Hopefully, good and positive!

And if it’s not.

You need to change that asap!

Because having a crappy attitude is NOT going to get you anywhere!



Happiness:   “Never tie your happiness to the tail of someone else’s kite!” – Beth Hoffman.  That’s it!

Successful people are happy people.

They go hand-in-hand.

So if you aren’t happy now, you are most likely are going to have a hard time being successful.

And I know what a lot of you think.

‘Patti, when I’m successful I will be soooo happy!”



It doesn’t work like that.

You need to be happy NOW๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

That’s the difference between winners and losers.

Winners know that in order to be successful, they have to act AS IF!

AS IF they are already successful!

Not, I need to wait until I am successful in order to be happy.

Notice the difference.

Now LIVE It! 


Persistence:  Having an attitude like that ๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†

Riri knows!

You have to be a BEAST sincerely!

I know no one wants to hear that.

You have to be a ‘beast’ and go after what you want.

If you truly want to be successful.

NO ONE is going to hand it to you.

You have to work your axx off to get it.


Whatever your ‘it’ is.

Be prepared to work night and day to get it.

I can’t tell you how many part time jobs I’ve had over the years.

Growing my business.

Working for nothing.

Putting in 60 hours a week.

Not making a penny.

That’s devotion.

And that’s what you need.

When you see the big picture.

And know what you are working towards.

It’s easy.

It doesn’t feel like work.

It literally is ALL you think about.


If you want to be successful.

Be willing to work.

Be willing to move mountains.

And if you don’t have THAT mindset.

You need to get it real quick!

Enthusiasm:  Be enthusiastic.

Whatever it is you want to be successful in.

Be 110% enthusiastic about it.

It needs to be something you would do for free.


Quite honestly.

That’s probably going to be the scenario at first.


Do you have that enthusiasm.

If not.

Pick another goal!

And lastly:

That’s the big one!  

That is the mindset you have to have.  

Failure is NOT an OPTION!

Remember this.

Your life.โ€œMake today ridiculously amazing!โ€ (11.6.2020)

Your dreams.

Your journey!

So you ask…

How can I find success?

Think it.

Dream it.

Live it.

Lastly, make sure to follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!




What a wonder thought that some of our best days

of our lives haven’t happened yet!



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