“How can I find happiness?” (9.19.16)

Patricia Bokowski, please help spread the word.
Here are the top 10 ways people give away their power:
  1. Choosing to be unhappy.
  2. Fear of anything, especially falling in love.
  3. Believing that karma or spiritual contracts are absolute.
  4. Waiting for their ducks to line up before acting.
  5. Believing in soul mates.
  6. Attaching to unimportant details and outcomes.
  7. Thinking they have dues to pay.
  8. Worrying about HOW their dream will come true.
  9. Thinking God decides who gets what.
  10. Asking others what they should do.

The Universe / How can I find happiness?


“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How can I find happiness?

I hear so many people asking that.


So few do anything about it.

How do people not understand that it is a mindset.

Not a ‘where you are at’ set.

Deciding to be happy is something you do every morning when you wake up.

It’s either.


I am happy.


No, I am not happy.

If you choose the latter.

Good luck in finding true happiness!

Stop being afraid of everything.

Turn that thinking around, and FEAR nothing!

FEAR is something you make up in your head.

Danger is real.

As in a dinosaur is chasing you and is going to eat you.

That’s danger.

FEAR is usually the things we THINK are going to happen.

And they usually don’t.

Or at least, not as bad as we think.

Here’s a little nugget of wisdom I wanted to share with you today:

EVERYTHING is figureoutable.

Everything ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Worrying about how your dreams will come true!

I learned a long time ago to forget about the dreaded “hows”. ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

It’s not up to me to figure out the ‘hows’.


To be present everyday!

To put out my best work.

To show up.

To use the best of me with everything I do.

To be persistent.


Dedicated to helping as many people as I can everyday!

Some days I’m knocking it out of the park.

And some days, I’m not.

And that’s ok.

As long as I know I’m giving it my best shot!

Having limited beliefs.

How many times have you heard, “you can’t do that.”


“That’s never going to work.”

“What makes you think you can me successful at it.”

“No one is going to pay you to do that.”

And the list goes on and on.

Turn that off now ๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†

People LOVE to tell you what you can’t do.

Only, that’s what they can’t do, not you.

YOU, can do anything you set your mind to.

AND, work at it everyday.

Giving it everything you’ve got.

With a no holds bar attitude๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

Be relentless in your pursuit of whatever it is that sets your heart on fire โœโœโœ


I don’t know how many times I’ve used that picture ๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†

Because it really does say it all.

Don’t be like the rest of them, darling.

And it’s very easy to be like them.

To be in the same routine of them.

Do the same work.

Have the same friends.

The usual weekend fun.

But if you’re like me and got hit with the bug.

The entrepreneur bug.

The thing that wakes you wake up at 6:00am (when you are really a (9:00am kind of girl).

The idea that you want a different kind of life.

That you dare to think differently than everyone else around you.

Trust me, that’s when your life starts to get real interesting!

I’ve written about this before.

All the years I worked my 9-5 job.

Talk about sitting still ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

It wasn’t until I was out of that world for quite some time that I realized how much time I wasted.

Time that I actually could have been doing something that really set my heart on fire.

I always knew I had a higher purpose.


It’s funny.

It initially started as this little something inside me that said, ‘Patti, you are meant to do something bigger.’

And so I started researching having a side business (because initially that’s what I thought that it was going to be).

Long story short.

Starting my business back in 2012 was THE BEST decision I ever made for myself both personally and professionally ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

(Obviously, that does not include my family. They were the BEST thing that ever happened to me.)

What so many don’t understand ๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†๐Ÿ‘†

Those dreams were planted in you for a reason.

And you know what?

Not everyone gets them.

Yes, that’s right.

Not everyone gets them.

So, if you are one of the luck ones who do.

Use them.

With whatever you have at your fingertips.

Seriously. โ€œHow to make a positive life!โ€ (10.10.2020)

Do whatever you can with whatever resources you have right now.

You will be so happy with yourself that you did! 

YOU ARE ready now.

There is never going to be some magical great time to start.

Or, maybe you are waiting for someone to tell you to do it.

Forget that!

This is your happiness at stake.

Don’t hand the keys to anyone else.

YOU are in charge of it.

How can I find happiness?

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on YouTube and TikTok – The Frog’s Den  ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth while!

Be loyal to your future, not your past!