“You were made to do hard things!” (10.25.16)

If you can fall in love with just one thing about him, her, them, it, or yourself, Patricia Bokowski, just once a day, and speak it aloud, you’ll be surprised by how quickly it will transform your entire life. 
I love that look on your face when the coin drops – 
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“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – The Frog’s Den

How can I do hard things?

Am I ready?

When you start the journey of going after your dreams.

Whatever that may be.

We often think it is going to be easier than it is.

It’s not.


It is like pushing a huge rock uphill.

In a snowstorm

And you don’t have any rain gear.

So you keep slipping backwards.

On a daily basis.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Recently someone gave me some great advice.

They said, ‘when you are starting out to create this ‘thing’ of yours.

You are literally creating beauty out of nothing.

Nothing short of dirt.’

Wrap your head around that.

Which got me thinking.

Something you don’t hear to many people talking about.

And it’s this.

You were made to do hard things.


You were!

Think about our great-great-grandparents.

Do you think they had it easy?

Absolutely not!

They probably had to work like a dog.

And they didn’t cell phones.

Or computers.

No Netflix.

Or Google.

No FaceBook.

They had NONE of that.

And yet.

They managed.

Many of them managed very well.

So the next time.

You find yourself saying you can’t do something.



And figure out a new way to do it.

There is ALWAYS a new way.

Get a fresh perspective.

Ask a good friend.

Google it.

YouTube it.



You don’t have to reinvent the wheel.

What you want.

Is to put your spin on it!

I can’t tell you how many people I speak to who tell me the things they are going to do!

The business they are going to start.

That book they are going to write.

The new job they are going to get.

Signing up for a course they want to take.

The list is endless.

Here’s the thing.

And I write about it OFTEN๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

Because it’s so damn important!

You HAVE to start.โœ”โœ”โœ”

Because, in that magical place called “someday”, nothing happens ;-(

Trust me, I know, it’s not easy.

Not at all.

Only, here’s the thing:

Stop talking.

Start doing.

The end!


That’s the answer.

YOU have to start.

That’s where the magic is.

In starting.

Once you start.

The adventure begins!

Are you ready?


You need to be the pilot of your project!


Just take your idea and fly with it.

And, it’s ok if you make it up as you go along,

That’s what most of us are doing anyway.


Winging it one wink at a time!

Trust me.

None of us has THE blueprint to success.โœˆโœˆโœˆ

We just make sure we show up everyday and give it out best shot๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

That’s where the magic lies.๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

The Universe rewards those they know are serious about this shiz!

So, as long as you are consistent and persistent.

You are on the right track!

Kermit the Frog๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ

No it won’t be easy.

Ask any really successful person if their journey was easy?

And I have no doubt, they will have along list of all the things that didn’t go their way.

A list of failures ;-(

It comes with the territory.

You need to be resilient in your quest to success.

Which you need.


Then when you have your own success story to share.

You can tell everyone about your journey.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Yes you will.โ˜โ˜โ˜

That’s their problem, not yours.

Remember, it’s your journey, not theirs.

And don’t let anyone guilt-trip you into thinking anything less.

What you need to do.

On a daily basis.

Is to take all the steps needed to get you where you want to be!

Build your own door.

Follow your path.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Create your own opportunities.

Call it whatever you want.

Just work on getting there๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿ‘‰

I’ve shared this in so many of my blogs.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

When I first started my business in 2012, I knew at some point I wanted to start a blog.

Now ask me if I knew “anything” about blogging? 


Social media?

Like, what was Twitter?

I remember how I literally wrote that on piece of paper at a class on social media I attended ๐Ÿ˜‰

I didn’t know anything about anything!

But, I knew I wanted to know HOW to do these things.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

So, I started taking classes at the local college (classes for business owners) on social media.

I used every resource I could to teach myself anything and everything about social media.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

And guess what?

I got good at it.

Really good I must say.


Because I was determined!

And quite honestly.

I didn’t have the funds to hire someone to do it for me.


I liked doing it.


I really liked it.

And then I got to meet more amazing people.

The more I did it.

I stretched myself.

Now I am on:









Here’s a piece of advice I will share when starting your path to success.

Give up on the notion that it has to be perfect.

I’m sure my first blogs were horrible.

And that’s ok.

I started, and that was the important thing.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Recently I read somewhere, you have to do something 50 times to get to perfect๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ

Or, close to.

All these years later.โ€œFinding your Happy Place!โ€ (10.29.2020)

I still wouldn’t say my blogs are perfect.

I like to think that they are still a work in progress.

So I’ll say it again…

You were made to do hard things!

That’s kind of the attitude you have to haveโ˜โ˜โ˜

Tough as nails!


With sheer grit and determination!

Because, trust me.

There will be plenty of people who will not support you.

And those people will most likely be your friends and family.

So, you need to be a force to be reckoned with.

And that, I am sorry to say, is the part of the journey where many get off.

Because it gets too hard.

You will also, most likely.

Lose some people along the way.

That’s part of the process.

As Tom Hanks has been quoted, “If it was easy, everyone would do it!”

Therefore, at this point, we all know, it’s not going to be easy!๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I can’t tell you how true this statement is.

Stop asking people who have never gone where you’re going for advice.

They don’t know. โ€œ9 Thought Provoking Quotes To Set Your Soul On Fire!โ€ (11.12.2020)

Sure, they’ll give you advice as to how they think YOU should do it.

Only, that’s their vision, not yours.๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I have learned that lesson the hard way. 

No more asking anyone WHERE I should take my business.๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ

That’s not to say, you can ask people for advice.

Just don’t listen to anyone who wants to tell you exactly which path YOU should take!

That is entirely up to YOU๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿ‘‡

Now, it’s time to take a leap of faith and START๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿ‘ˆ


You were made to do hard things!

You got this!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!





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