“How can I be more successful?” (4.27.2020)

The thing to remember, Patricia Bokowski, to always remember, is that what you do, or don’t do, today, is what matters most. 
Start your engines,   The Universe / How can I be more successful?

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

Happens all the time!👈👈👈

We have all the best intentions of doing something.🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

And yet, somehow we manage to get in our own way and stop ourselves from doing it.  

We over think it.🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Fill our heads with doubt.😥😥😥

Come up with a million reasons why it won’t work.😑😑😑

Finally, concluding, that we absolutely cannot do whatever it is we wanted to do in the first place✔✔✔

Thus, wondering, why we never get anything done🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Please stop.🙏

And don’t do that!!!  

Stop thinking so much, truly! 

The minute we start doing that, we are robbing ourselves of the magic of the moment.🥰🥰🥰

And the ‘magic’ is the best part👈👈👈

That’s the part where we are coming out of our comfort zone and pushing ourselves to do this ‘thing’, whatever that thing is for you!

And, once you’ve done that ‘thing’ wait and see what The Universe blesses you with for doing it!

Only, you will never know unless you actually DO THE THING🎯🎯🎯

One of the first things you can do for yourself, is, STOP listening to other people.

Because, ‘other’ people will tell you that you absolutely cannot do it.

Again, whatever that thing is for you✅✅✅  

Thus, giving away your power.

And feeding your brain more reasons why it won’t work.

Remember, your brain is listening to everything you say.

So if you say to it, I can’t do this.

It will respond, you’re right, you can’t!

Self-sabotage #101

Don’t get caught in the trap✔✔✔

Repeat, do not tell other people, and I don’t care who they are, what you want to do!

As in most cases, they will invariably tell you why you can’t!

I have found in case like this, it is best to keep it to yourself until you have already done it!🎯🎯🎯

I cannot stress this enough!

You have so much potential👈👈👈

Do you ever think about that?

Most people barely use an ounce of their potential because they keep telling themselves they don’t have any

Think about it!

How many times did you want to do something, only to talk yourself out of it?🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

For whatever reason.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

And when we want to be, we can very good at coming up with reasons!

That’s called getting in your own way BIG time☝☝☝

Patricia D. Bokowski – Author

I’ve talked about this before.🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

When I first started my business in 2012, I had NO IDEA what I was doing.🤷‍♀️

So of course, as a result, I had many people telling me what I should or shouldn’t do.

I was so overwhelmed.☹☹☹

Who was right and who was wrong?

And, who’s advice should I take?

So, after a lot of ups and downs.

Many journeys down paths I knew weren’t right for me.👇👇👇

People who managed their way into my circle who shouldn’t have been there to begin with. Totally my fault for letting it happen!

One day, I made a decision, from then on, I make ALL the decisions about MY business. Including who’s in my circle👈👈👈

Right or wrong, they are my decisions to make!👊👊👊

You want a recipe for disaster in your life, ask other people what you should do?

Taking back your power, takes you on the right road to getting out of your own way!

At the end of the day, when I think about it, that’s why I started my own business, to do things MY way.🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️🙋‍♀️

Not, someone else’s.😐😐😐

In my vast twenty-something plus years in the Corporate world I had learned plenty, lots of do’s and do not’s.

Saw what so many did wrong. A LOT👈👈👈

I could write a book on how many times no one would listen to me about a certain problem, only for them to come back to me when things didn’t work out the way they though it would.

And I knew it wouldn’t!


So let me ask you, what’s that one thing you’ve had rattling around in the back of your head that you really want to do?

Only, you have come up with a 100 reasons WHY you can’t do it?👈👈👈

Or, why it won’t work!


Reverse your thinking!

Think:  What one thing can I do today to make that “thing” a reality?

It literally can be anything!💪💪💪

And, there’s no right or wrong answer.

It’s just, you have to start, and get out of your own way!

Each of us is born with so much potential👈👈👈

Use it!

Every delicious morsel of it✅✅✅

The moral of the story, do that thing you’ve been wanting to do!

Like, actually do it!

Less talk.

More doing.

How can I be more successful?


Just work at it everyday!

Lastly, make sure to follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth your while!



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