“How can I be more confident?” (11.1.16)

Once you make up your mind, Patricia Bokowski, and start something… Once you commit and never look back…
Do you have any doubt that I won’t rush to your side? That legions won’t be summoned? That friends won’t be attracted? That connections won’t be made? Circumstances won’t be crafted? Dots won’t be connected?
That the course of history won’t be irrevocably changed?
Good, I didn’t think so.
I’d say you’re ready,  The Universe
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Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How can I be more confident?

Simple.

Push past your fears.

You know.

ALL those things.

You want to do.

But.

Are afraid to do them.

Yes, that.

That’s how you find your confidence!

The kind of confidence.

That strangers can feel off of you.

When you walk into a room.

Seriously.

And.

When you have THAT kind of confidence.

You can move mountains.

LOTS of them.

And.

You will find yourself.

Doing things.

That ten years ago.

You would have never imagined.

You could do.

That’s exactly how you get.

Super-Confidence!

Are you ready?

True!

Looking good.

And feeling good.

Gives you confidence!

Confidence to do.

Whatever it is you dream about.👈👈👈

For me.

It was starting NineFrogs.

My Image Consulting business back in 2012.

Listen to me when I tell you:

I had no f*cking idea what I was doing.🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

None!

But, I was confident.

I would figure it out!

As I said earlier.

The more you push your own limits.

The more you stretch yourself.

And, for the record.

There are no limits.

Only the ones we put on ourselves.

True story:  

This was probably five or six years ago.

This guy (big social media guy).

Had this last minute get-together in NYC. 

You had to apply and if you were picked.

He gave you the address. 

And it was literally the following day. 

I entered and was picked.

So the next day.

I hopped on the train into NYC and went to this event. 

It was a Happy Hour (he paid for the entire thing).

I never did get to meet him.

But I did meet some other very interesting people.

Needless to say.

I went by myself.

Didn’t even think about it.

That never would have happened.

Five years prior.

Ever!

That’s what.

Super confidence can do for you!

So how do you get that kind of confidence?

You work at it everyday!

Pushing yourself.

Trying new things.

Totally out of your comfort zone.

Working on being the best version.

Of YOU that there is.

And, here’s the thing.

It doesn’t happen over night.

It is something you work at daily.

For the rest of your life.

Taking chances.

On things you never would have before.

Only now you can.

Because you have the confidence to do it!

Yes.

THAT kind of confidence!

I can’t stress this one enough.

That is so true!

To get those BIG wins in life.

You need to possess a tremendous amount of b*lls!

Ten years ago.

I never would have went to a networking event alone.

Ten years ago.

I never would have given a speech to a room full of people.

Ten years ago.

I never thought I would have a business where I take people shopping!

But guess what?

Now I do all of those things.

And more.

I’ve been interviewed on the radio quite a few times.

I’ve been interviewed for quite a few podcasts.

I do Influencer Marketing.

I’m a Fashion/LifeStyle Blogger.

All these things were a pipe dream ten years ago.

I just didn’t give up.

Even on the days.

When it felt like ‘nothing’ was happening.

I just kept trying!

I’ve told this story before.

But it’s worth repeating.

I don’t even think I had officially started my business. 

At the cusp of launching it.

Networking was on my to-do list.

And I was NOT looking forward to starting.

The idea of walking into a room full of strangers.

Didn’t sit well with me.

But, I had been advised by many.

If I wanted to get my name.

And my business name ‘out there’.

I had to network.

At the time.

I couldn’t even fathom going anywhere by myself. 

Let alone, to a place with a bunch of strangers.

So.

I bought a ticket to a networking event.

I believe it was $15.00.

I figured, if I bought a ticket.

I would actually go.

And I did.

I sat in the parking lot for a good ten minutes before I went in.

I told myself.

Actually, I made a bargain with myself.

I just needed to talk to one person.

Get their business card.

And give them mine.

And then I could leave.

As I entered the room of strangers.

I scanned the room for someone to talk to.

And I noticed a lady who had a table.

And she had a quite a bit of people around her.

She’s my person I told myself. NineFrogs Daily QUOTE OF THE DAY:

So, I walked over to her table.

And I just kind of hung around her table.

Kind of blended in with the crowd.

Because I literally did not know what else to do.

Anyway, she had noticed me.

As soon as everyone was gone.

She looked at me and said: “ok pretty lady, who are you and what do you do?”

LOL.

I was so relieved.

And the rest is history.

And if you can believe it?

Two years later, people were paying ME to network for THEM.👈👈👈

I’ll say it again.

And.

I cannot stress this enough.👈👈👈

What self-confidence can do for your life!

Both personal AND professional.

It is the stuff you need to make those big dreams come true!

Confidence, not cockiness! There is a difference!

Patricia D. Bokowski – CEO & Founder – NineFrogs

EVERYONE deserves to have confidence!

Including you! 

So what are you doing today to get you there?

Remember.

It all starts with you!

Have you heard?

I’m writing a book!

Titled: “How One Landscaping Bill Changed Everything!”

Anticipate release date: Summer 2022!

I cannot wait for you guys to read it!

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – Subscribe to my YouTube Channel and follow me on TikTok !

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare!  Make it worth their while!

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