“How can I be more confident?” (4.13.16)

Question: What would it take, Patricia Bokowski, what would have to happen in your life these days, for you to allow yourself to really kick back, relax, and just enjoy?
Answer: Whatever it is, whatever, you will achieve it, earn it, acquire it, or experience it so much faster if you first kick back, relax, and just enjoy.
  The Universe / How can I be more confident? / www.tut.com
Simple enough, Patricia Bokowski?

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How can I be more confident?

So ask yourself.

What would you do if you weren’t afraid.

If all those things you’ve been wanting to do.

You actually did.

How do you think that would make you feel.

Pretty amazing I’m sure.

To conquer your demons.

The ones that tell you it’s not going to work.

That you can’t DO IT.👈👈👈

That you don’t have what it takes.

You’re not a winner!

You don’t have enough ________ (fill in the blank).

Don’t listen to me.

Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸


Isn’t that the truth!

We all know those people that just suck the positive energy right from you.

Personally, I have this issue often.

See, I am a beacon of positivity. 

And other people can feel it!

Usually, it’s the people WHO Don’t have it.

And when they see someone who has it.

They WANT it!

How can I be more confident?



A Therapist actually told me that some years back.

She said:

‘Patti, you have an abundance of something that other people are missing.

Who DON’T have what you have.

Who will be very attracted to you. 👈👈👈

Only, those are the people you need to stay far away from. 

Because they won’t be bringing anything TO YOU. #nothing

They will be taking everything they can from you.’👈👈👈


Needless to say.

She was right.

And was I careful NOT to do just that?


I was not.

I got burned not once, but twice.

After #2.

I started to be vigilant who I let into my life.

Like, hardcore.

I let quite a few people go too.

These days, I keep my circle small.

And use all those positive vibes to create great content.

And bring happiness to those around me.

So, I caution you.

Watch who you let into your life.

How can I be more confident?



Giving comes in many forms.👈👈👈

Not just money or material things. 

Smiling at a stranger is a form of giving.

Opening the door for the person behind you. 

Donating old clothes to the Salvation Army.  

Saying thank you to the lady who serves you lunch. 

Acknowledging the guy who cleans your office with a hearty hello and how are you today!

Simple things everyone can do every day to give of themselves, yet many don’t.

How can I be more confident?

Be a beacon of positivity!

The more you give, the more you receive. 

That’s how the universe works. 

You know that thing called “The Secret.”

It gives back to you what you give out. 

If you are giving out kindness, generosity, and happiness, that is what you will get back.

Needless to say, the opposite works as well.

Behaving badly towards others WILL came to you.

Maybe not today, tomorrow or next month.

In other words, you just never know when Karma will come knocking on your door.

How can I be more confident?

Don’t be jealous or envious of others.

If something wonderful happens to someone you know, be genuinely happy for them.

Send out happy thoughts, which in turn will come back to you!

If I’m jealous or envious of someone, then I’m blocking all the good stuff that should come back to me.

So, what happens with those negative vibes?

They have a boomerang affect and will come right back at you!

How can I be more confident?

For instance, when a friend invites me over to their beautiful new house, I don’t say to myself, ‘damn, I wish I had a house like this.’

Although, there would be nothing wrong with ‘wanting’ a beautiful house.

My point is…

I say to myself, ‘I am so glad that I have friends who invite me over to their beautiful new house.’


Putting positive thoughts and energy into The Universe, so that it will come back to me!

How can I be more confident?


Everyday, make a conscious decision to put out good vibes.

To be kind, generous and spread happiness wherever you go.

How can I be more confident?


My success is not tied to anyone or anything.

And neither is yours.

You are given this life to do amazing things.

Things that others only wished they had the courage to do.

Even if they don’t tell you.

Which they won’t!

How can I be more confident?


Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!


How can I be more confident?




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