“How are you happy?” (7.31.17)

If you want better from others, Patricia Bokowski, be better yourself.
Want better,
  The Universe / How are you happy?
Always bring it home, Patricia Bokowski, and then watch how others change.

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

How are you happy?

I get asked that question often!


As Zig Ziglar states:

“Motivation doesn’t last, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.”

So, I’ve been thinking lately.

Why are so many people asking that question?


Why do people feel so helpless?

Because I’m pretty sure they go hand-in-hand!

And I believe the cause of their misery is.

They lost their power along the way.


Not only that.

They gave up their power without even realizing it.

And that’s why they can’t figure out why they feel so helpless?

Let me tell you.

Feeling helpless is one of the WORST feelings you can have.

So today I’ve assembled some of my favorite inspirational quotes!

THAT is the BIG lesson for sure!

Once you realize that, your life changes.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

No one scares you anymore!

And let’s be honest.

That’s one of the reasons we feel powerless.

Because we feel someone OR something is more powerful than us!

We either let the person, or the situation, become BIGGER than us.

When in reality.

YOU still have the power.

If this is you, it is time to regain YOUR power.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

“Be brave and fearless to know that even if you do

make a wrong decision, you’re making it for a good reason.”

– Adele

Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸


I’ve written about this before in my blogs.

Before I started my business.

I had a good amount of self-confidence.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Only, once I started my business and things started to take off,.

It jumped significantly.

And one of the biggest changes.

I will go out to eat by myself.

And not just out to eat.

Pretty much everywhere these days.


I know many cringe at the idea.

(Wait till I talk about Public Speaking).

And I know that because I’ve spoken with so many people about this very subject.

I get it.

I used to be the same way.

I would NEVER go out to eat by myself.

Now, I don’t give it a second thought.

Just like going to a networking event by myself.

I just do it as they say πŸ˜‰

That’s just one of the many changes that has happened to me in the past eight years.


Going out to places by myself.

Starting my very own business.

Not caring what others think about me (like, starting my own business).

Being more confident then I’ve ever been in my entire life.

Growing my audience around the world by over 400,000+ followers.

None of these things ever would have happened.

Had I not started my NineFrogs business.

So, what sets your soul on fire?

I knew for years when I was working in the corporate world there was something bigger for me to do.

I just didn’t know what THAT thing was.

Only I just knew it in my soul.

And as the years went by, it only got stronger.

I would literally say to myself,:

‘Patti, there is something OUT there you are supposed to be doing.’

And it is most definitely NOT here.

Oddly enough.

That’s the kind of attitude.

One has to have to accomplish great things!

It’s not arrogance.

It’s confidence.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Confident in yourself.

Confident, that you know you are on the right path.

Confidence in yourself.

To know you have got what it takes.

And that you are in this for the long-haul.

What I have found over the years.

Is this.

Most people want safe and secure.

Most people want comfort.

Even if it is comfortable misery.

Most people will accept a mediocre life.

Not me.

Been there done that.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

These days.

I am going to the top of the mountain.

And there’s no stopping me.


When I was a kid, I was afraid of everything.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ


Only as the years went on.

And the more “life” storms I went through.

I wasn’t as afraid.

I have found that with each “life” storm.

It has made me more courageous.

Quite honestly.

As the saying goes.

‘That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

And I’m here to tell you.

That statement couldn’t be more true!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

All my years working in the corporate world.

Being around all these ‘executive’ people.

I used to think they were so much smarter than me.

But in reality, they weren’t.

They were just playing the game better than me.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Because at the time.

I had no idea how to play the game.

Only, as the years went on, I learned.

I got smarter.

Something a lot of people don’t like.

See, when you are a smart woman.

You can be a threat to many people.


So, as I see it, you have two choices.

You can silence yourself because you know you are a threat.



And let the world know you WILL be HEARDπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Needless to say.

I took the second option.

That’s what my new book is all about.

Telling MY story.

More about my book at the end of the blog. 

Having a voice.

Taking MY power back.

As Maya Angelou says:

When one woman speaks up for herself, she speaks up for all women.”

That’s how you inspire others.

By telling your story.

And then your story.

Becomes someone else’s inspirationπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ


You will be.

Like I say.

You’re not vanilla.

Everyone is not going to like you.

I know that about me.

And you know what?

I am perfectly fine with it!

I love that.

And trust me, so true!

That is true power.  

The willingness to stay focused when the odds are against you!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

That’s truly a super-power.

The phrase “do not be afraid” is written in the bible 365 times.
That’s a daily reminder from God to live every day being fearless.
That which does not kill us makes us stronger!

That’s where so many people fail.

They are so afraid to fail.

That they don’t even try.


So you try and fail.

Now you know that’s one way NOT to do it.

But there’s still a billion other ways to try it.

So keep trying.

Keep failing.


You WILL find the way!

Don’t be afraid to fail.

Be afraid not to try.

I BELIEVE in you! 

How are you happy?

Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming real soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!



“How are you happy?”