In all my years as the Universe, Patricia Bokowski, never once have I asked for anything in return of anyone, anywhere, ever.
And I think that’s a pretty good policy, no matter who I am. Don’t you?
Tallyho, The Universe / Finding your happy place!
Why would I, Patricia Bokowski? I am my own well. Like you.
“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs
Finding your happy place!
Just yesterday I was reading an article on LinkedIn on this very subject!
Most people are looking for happiness in all the wrong places.
And then wonder why they still aren’t happy ;-(
The thing is.
What you are looking for isn’t OUT THERE.
It’s inside you.
Here’s my advice:
STOP WAITING FOR HAPPINESS to show up at your front door!
And while you’re at it.
Stop waiting for everything to be perfect to be happy.
Because it’s never going to happen.
It’s kind of like.
Waiting for a good time to have a baby.
There never is.
You just do it!
Same thing with finding your happiness.
You deserve to be happy now!
And it all starts with you!
This isn’t a dress rehearsal, this is your life!
This is your ONE shot.
And YOU deserve to be living it happy!
Like, really happy 😉
No person, thing OR event, is going to make you happy!
If you aren’t happy already.
Stop looking outside yourself.
You make YOU happy.😊😊😊
It is a total inside job.
Here’s where so many people get it wrong.
Other people can ADD to your happiness.
But, if you are looking for someone else to make you happy.
You are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment. ;-(
And as far as all the other “things” that people think will make them happy.
You should give up on that dream as well.👈👈👈
Because the minute you start waiting for YOUR happiness based on any external thing.
Like when I hear people say things like;
I’ll be happy when:
I lose weight.”
(OMG, that’s a huge one).
How about you be happy with the body you now have?
AND then you lose weight?
If you are starting off HATING your body.
You will have little success in losing weight.
The list then goes on like this;
A new job,
That new boyfriend/girlfriend,
I want a house!
Where’s my new car?
The list goes on and on…
When I have a no problems.
Someone please tell me in what universe this is?
And so on and so on….
Again, “things and people” can add to your happiness, but they can’t make you happy!
I’ve experienced this first hand.
My ex-husband was the worst.
Always putting off his happiness!
Waiting for some Magical Unicorn Rainbow to happen, and then he’d be happy.🦄🦄🦄
Needless to say, that never happened!🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
Which also explains why he is my EX-husband!
I firmly believe that’s why there as so many unhappy people in this world today.
Lack of self-confidence.
Next time you go to your local coffee shop, take a look around at all the faces.
See how many are happy?
We have so many people looking for happiness in all the wrong places.
They need to start with themselves first. 👈👈👈
Make yourself happy, and then see what happens!🤗🤗🤗
People ask me often, what makes me happy (and where does that pretty smile come from?)…?
My answer: doing the things I want, with the people I want, and working in my business (best decision I ever made)!
Now, ask me if my life is perfect?
My answer would be, my life is far from perfect.👈👈👈
I have problems just like everyone else.
Only, when I wake up in the morning.
I decide I AM GOING TO BE HAPPY despite my problems.
I don’t even think about it.
Am I going to be happy today?
No I don’t.
I just wake up and start my day.
A nice cup of hot tea helps me get going.
And that makes me happy!
When you are in a state of ‘happiness’.
You are in a far better state of mind to solve your problems.
When you are in a state of ‘unhappiness’.
Your brain is not going to function at it’s very best,.
Thus, not much use to you in solving your problems ;-(
Am I happy?
And I know someone out there will say, ‘well Patti, we all can’t be happy everyday.‘
But you can be most days.👈👈👈
You should stop waiting for the Unicorn of Happiness to come riding into you life🦄🦄🦄
And become your own Unicorn of Happiness and see how your life changes for the better👈👈👈
I actually think Kermit the Frog said that☝☝☝
And most of all.
Stop putting the keys to your happiness in someone else’s pockets.
That was another lesson I had to learn the hard way.
DO NOT PUT THE KEYS TO YOUR HAPPINESS IN SOMEONE ELSE’S POCKET.
I am telling you.
You are setting yourself up for a huge let-down.
It is YOUR happiness, and no one else’s.
YOU SO DESERVE IT ❤ https://www.ninefrogs.com
Just know, I am rooting for you and your happiness 😉
Finding your happy place👈👈👈
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Patricia <3 always
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Finding your happy place.