“Feel good, look good!” (11.1.16)

It’s wise never to ask another for what you want, Patricia Bokowski
No, don’t ask me.
No, not even yourself.
Just give thanks, in advance. As if you already had whatever it is the “old-you” would have asked for.
Oh, and by the way, thanks (in advance) for loving every fiber of your supernatural self, as much as I do. 
  The Universe / FEEL GOOD, LOOK GOOD!

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – Kermit the Frog


Feel good, look good.

That’s it!

The recipe for amazing self-confidence.

And for the record.

That doesn’t mean.

Only if you are pretty/handsome,

You have amazing self-confidence.

Trust me.

There are plenty of “pretty” people.

Out there who don’t have a whole lot of confidence.

Feel good, look good.

Because it comes from the inside. πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

You know that phrase: 

Happiness is an inside job!


It all starts on the inside.

When you are FEELING your best, you look your best!


Looking good (and feeling good), gives you confidence!

Confidence to do whatever it is you dream about.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

For me, it was starting my NineFrogs business back in 2012.

I had no freakin idea what I was doing.πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

But, I was confident I would figure it out!

And you do get more confident when you keep pushing the limits you set up for yourself.

When you stretch yourself to do things you never thought possible.

To meet people you never could have imagined.

True story:  

This was probably five or six years ago, this guy (big social media guy) had this last minute get-together in NYC. 

You had to apply and if you were picked, he gave you the address.  And it was literally the following day. 

I entered and was picked.

So the next day I hopped on the train into NYC and went to this event. 

It was a Happy Hour (he paid for the entire thing).

I never did get to meet him, but I did meet some other very interesting people.

Needless to say, I went by myself.

Didn’t even think about it.

That never would have happened five years prior to that.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ


So how do you get that kind of confidence you might ask?

You work at it everyday!

Pushing yourself to new limits.πŸ‘ŠπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘Š

Trying new things, totally out of your comfort zone.πŸ™‹β€β™‚οΈπŸ™‹β€β™‚οΈπŸ™‹β€β™‚οΈ

Working on being the best version of YOU that there is.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

And hint; that doesn’t happen over night AND it is something you work at daily for the rest of your life.πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

Taking chances on things you never would have before only now you can because you have the confidence to do it!

Yeah, THAT kind of confidence!πŸ’™πŸ’™πŸ’™

I can’t stress this one enough.

That is so true!

To get those BIG wins in life.

You need to possess a tremendous amount of balls (yep, I said it).πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

Ten years ago I never would have went to a networking event alone.


Gotten up in front of a group and give a speech.

Now, I don’t think twice about it.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

I’ve gone (and continue to go), to lots of networking events (by myself).

And I’ve given, I would say, at least ten speeches over these last few years.

Do I think about it? 

I do not.πŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈπŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

I just do it.βœ”βœ”βœ”

Just like a lot of other things I do that I don’t think twice about.

Yet other people will say to me, ‘you did that by yourself?’

That’s what comes from having great self-confidence πŸ˜‰

I’ve told this story before, but it’s worth repeating because it goes with this #blog so well.

I don’t even think I had officially started my business. 

At the cusp of launching it.

Networking was on my to-do list.

Since I had read that’s what you had to do to get your business name out there.

At the time, I couldn’t even fathom going anywhere by myself. 

Let alone, to a place with a bunch of strangersπŸ˜•πŸ˜•πŸ˜•


I bought a ticket to a networking event.

I believe it was $15.00.

I figured if I bought a ticket I would actually go.

And I did.

I sat in the parking lot for a good ten minutes before I went in.

Told myself, I just needed to talk to one person and get their business card.

As I entered the room of strangers I scanned the room for someone to talk to.

And I noticed a lady who had a table and she had a quite a bit of people around her.

She’s my person I told myself. NineFrogs Daily QUOTE OF THE DAY:

I just kind of hung around her table (because I literally did not know what else to do).

Of course she had noticed me (I was there for a good twenty minutes).

As soon as everyone was gone, she looked at me and said: ok pretty lady, who are you and what do you do?


I was so relieved.

And the rest is history.😁😁😁

Two years later people were paying ME to network for THEM.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

I’ll say it again.


I cannot stress this enough.

How important it is to have a healthy amount of self-confidence.

It is the stuff you need to make those big dreams of yours come true😎😎😎

Confidence, not cockiness! There is a difference!


Everyone deserves to have all the confidence they need to succeed!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Including you! 

So what are you going to do today to get you there?


Feel good, look good!’

You so got this!


Lastly, make sure you follow NineFrogs on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den – New videos coming soon!

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare!  Make it worth their while!


Feel good, look good!