“Changes!” (2.8.17)

A question from your friend The Universe: 
Just how much time do you spend thinking big, Patricia Bokowski?
I mean really, really BIG? 
Good, very good! Because that’s exactly how much of “it” you’re going to get! 
What a coincidence, 
  The Universe / Changes!

“Stop asking people who have never been where you are going for directions.” – NineFrogs

Question: How can I achieve my dream?

Answer:  Do something different!

Unfortunately, that is not what most people do!

People usually start out doing one thing to get to their dream.

Then, when that doesn’t work, they give up.

Here’s the thing, you don’t give up the dream, you just have to try 39395950203 different ways to achieve it😩😩😩

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right’. 

Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools

you may have at your command,

and better tools will be found as you go along.” / George Herbert



If you continually do the same thing day in and day out, you most like will keep getting the same results.

So, if you are looking for different results, you need to do something differentπŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰πŸ‘‰

And, you can pretty much apply that theory to everything in your life.


What can you do today to get you one stop closer to where you want to be?

Looking for love (in all the wrong places)?

Only you always go for the same type and it gets you nowhere and you wonder why?  

Maybe it’s time to go for a new type?  

Always visit the same dating sites? 

How about trying a new one? 

There are a million of them these days.

Personally, I have changed my type many times over these past few years. 

Still haven’t found love yet.

But I’ve met some interesting people along the way!

Looking for a new job?

And not having much luck?  

Why not try a whole new approach?  

Just start applying to any job that sounds like it might be for you!

Too many look at a job description and think: Oh, I don’t have all the requirements?


Don’t make that decision!

Apply anyway!

You never know if the recruiter looks at your resume and thinks you might be a good candidate even if you don’t have all the requirements!

This is where you need to start thinking outside the box!


Do you have an idea for a business?

Only you keep saying to yourself you don’t know how to start. 

Hint:  just start!πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

The point is, when we have an issue or problem in our lives.

We seem to revert to the same way of thinking.

And the same way of doing, and then expect different results.

Only, in order to get a better result, you need to think better!

Really, out-of-the-box kind of thinking!  

This is how you grow.πŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

How you come out of your comfort zone.

I know, scary stuff.

And no one wants to do it!

“If you do what you’ve always done,

you will always get what you’ve always got. 

To get what you never had, you must do what you never did.”

Coming out of your comfort zone is necessary in order to live the life you are destined to live!

It is all part of the process.

For me personally, it has meant doing many “uncomfortable” things. 


Like starting my YouTube Channel this year.

And then in August, I started on TikTok.

Both are uncomfortable for me.

But, I did it anyway.

Because, I know doing it, will bring me closer to where I want to be.

It was the next step in the BIG plan.

Nothing happens overnight.

It’s all the baby steps you takes!

Public Speaking.

Over the past eight years, I have given quite a few speeches.

And each one of them has made me extremely uncomfortable.

Yet, I get a tremendous rush when I am doing them. 

What helped me was I took a Dale Carnegie class back when I was still in the corporate world.

It literally changed my outlook on life.

And I also knew, this is the thing I want to be doing.

Not sitting a desk, shuffling papers all day long.

Public Speaking didn’t seem so scary after that class.

Like I said, I’ve given quite a few speeches since I started my business.

And I’ve been interviewed probably close to twenty times now.

Those don’t even make me nervous anymore.

That’s the thing, you HAVE to start doing it first.

Baby steps.


Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸

When I first started my business, I did a lot of networking,fullsizerender-18

When I first started my business everyone told me I had to start Networking.

I had never been to a networking event while I was working in the corporate world.

There was no need.

But I started.

Most of the time, I went by myself to these events.

Now, ask me if I was out of my comfort zone? 


I would literally sit in my car in the parking lot and would have to convince myself to go in. 

Prior to having my own business, I never went anywhere without someone else! 

That changed quickly.

If there is an event I want to attend, I don’t even think about it.

I just go.

And, not two years after I started networking, people started paying me to network for them!

Now, if anyone had told me that was going to happen, I would have told them they were crazy.

STEP OUT of your comfort zone and amazing things WILL HAPPENπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

I always look at networking as somewhat of an adventure.

You never know who you are going to meet?

And you never know what’s going to happenπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆπŸ‘ˆ

Fortunately for me, I have met some pretty fantastic people over the years.

People I never would have met had I not dared venture out!

So, if you have never gone to a networking event, I highly encourage you to do so!

DON’T STOP BELIEVING in yourself and your abilities.

We are usually so quick to tell ourselves ‘we can’t do something’.

When it actuality, we usually can.

Sometimes we just have to look at it from a different angle.

So the next time you are trying to do something, instead of going left, go right.  

Instead of doing what you usually do, do somewhere different.

I’ve become the handy-man at our house.

And I amaze myself the stuff I’ve figured out how to fix!

Google and YouTube are wonderful things.

That’s what I’m talking about!

Think different

Insanity; doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” / Albert Einstein

Think about that.

You do the same thing day after day.

And then wonder why things aren’t getting better in your life?

YOU have to be willing to take chances to life the life you deserve!

Just do it!



Lastly, make sure to follow me on TikTok and YouTube – The Frog’s Den 🐸🐸🐸

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare.  Make it worth their while!



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