“9 Tips To Gaining Amazing Self-Confidence!” (1.21.19)

Dear Patricia Bokowski! 
Your fears are ebbing, your confidence is rising, and proof that I exist can now be felt in your touch by loved ones, found in your smile by friends, and seen in your countenance by strangers.
Everything, for you, will now begin getting easier, happier, and zippier. 
Giving new meaning to the adage, “Be the ball” –   The Universe / 9 Tips To Gaining Amazing Self-Confidence / www.tut.com

Patricia D. Bokowski – TikTok/YouTube – The Frog’s Den

I’ve written many blogs on this subject before because I feel it is an extremely important topic.   

Having supreme self-confidence is the stuff you need to make your dreams come true, and do all those things most people either can’t or won’t!

There are literally hundreds of things you can do to increase your self-confidence. 

Today I am sharing some of my favorites to get you there faster!  

I’ve written about this so many times, because it is so true! 

When you smile, you not only light up others, you light up yourself as well.  

And when that happens, over and over again, you will feel a shift. 

Soon enough, you will notice your affect on other people. 

Your self-confidence will soar!

So true, so true! 

You HAVE to Believe in yourself!

Even if you have to fake it. 

Sounds simple enough. 

You have to have believe you can do the things you want to do, even if it scares the shiX out of you!  

And you don’t have to start at the top, start doing small things and THEN you will get to the big things. 

No one eats the whole apple in just one bit!

If you want to get unwavering self-confidence, you can’t follow the crowd!

Because chances are, they aren’t going in the same direction  as you. 

Be prepared to make your own path, and along it, you will find the people on that very same path as you!

That’s kind of how it works!

MOVE!  Everyday!  Exercise.  Join a gym.  Go Zumba.  Walk.  Whatever floats your boat!

The point is too move your body everyday! 

Exercise is not only good for your body, it’s good for your brain.  

And when you start to take good care of your body, all kinds of wonderful things happen. 


You will start to FEEL better.  

You will start to walk with a little “jump” in your step.  

Your clothes will start to fit better. 

You will start thinking clearer. 

And because you are feeling better about yourself, your self-confidence will rise!

Kermit the Frog🐸🐸🐸


You’ve heard the term “garbage in, garbage out!”

If you are taking in garbage (negative talk, listening to disturbing news, hanging out with toxic people, etc), your chances of having soaring self-confidence are minimal at best.

Take in the positive (books, music, blogs, people, experiences, relationships, friends, etc).  

You will notice the change.

This also includes the self-talk. 

You know, those little things you say to yourself. 

Make sure you keep that positive. 

If you want to get a jump start here, my recommendations are affirmations. 

Find a few that really move you. 

Here are a few of my favorites:

“Everyday, in every way, I get better and better and better!”

I am a love magnet, I  am an opportunity magnet, I am a health magnet, and I am a wealth magnet. 

I am a success ____________ overflowing with abundance, love and happiness!

You’ve heard the phrase that “you are the sum of the five people you surround yourself with”.

There’s a reason for that.  

If you are surrounding yourself with unmotivated, toxic, negative people, chances of your self-confidence rising are slim.

Instead, surround yourself with positive, goal-oriented, motivated individuals. 

And watch your self-confidence soar.

Read a book. 

Get a massage. 

Listen to some awesome music. 

Go to lunch with a good friend. 


Take up yoga (I’m thinking of doing this one myself). 

Give yourself a facial (taking care of your skin is vitally important for both men and women).

And don’t forget those important daily grooming things like; your hair, your nails, and unwanted hair growth (that’s why they sell those grooming tools).

Let’s face it, when we feel good about ourselves, when we like what we see in the mirror, that’s helps our self-confidence grow!

The point is, do something good for your everyday. 

Even if it’s just for a few minutes.  https://www.ninefrogs.com

Do something good for your body AND soul!

Life is all about taking chances.

One of the surest ways to step up your self-confidence game is to step OUT of your comfort zone.

And yes, I know, it makes you uncomfortable. 

That’s the point.👈👈👈

Look at that list you made, what is something you can do today to get you one stop closer to where you want to be?

Now do it!

You knew I had to put this on my list!

Looking your best is so important for your self-confidence!

It is extremely hard to have amazing self-confidence if you are walking around looking like shix! 

And if that is the case, you probably feel like shix too!

And it doesn’t mean you have to be “all dressed up”. 

You can look fabulous in a t-shirt and a pair of jeans.

It’s all how you put it together. 

Here’s a hint, don’t walk around in your slippers and pjs!

Look your best!

Take pride in how you look. 

Be meticulous with your image. 

From your hair to your shoes, and everything in between.

That includes your body language.  

Smile (see above). 

Be friendly. 

Keep your vibe high (once you start doing that, you will notice a big difference in your life, and the people you attract.)

And there you have it!

“Keep your face to the sunshine
and you can never see the shadow.”
Helen Keller

Lastly, make sure you follow me on TikTok & YouTube – The Frog’s Den 👈👈👈

That’s a wrap!

Talk soon,

Patricia <3 always

NineFrogs ~ People will stare. Make it worth their while!




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